Dateline: Secret Lives
Did you catch Dateline this past weekend? They profiled the story of Jennifer and Ganesh Ramsaran. Jennifer went missing two weeks before Christmas in 2012. Her body was found several months later along side the road.
I remember when this case was active and Ganesh was talking to the media. I found his interviews very challenging to review. In one review, I wrote, “I see nothing positive or negative in this video upon which to draw conclusions outside of his “happy demeanor” which is odd.” And another video I didn’t see any flags. I wasn’t comfortable saying I trusted him or distrusted him. I remained neutral on the sideline. He was definitely a hard read in those media interviews he did, and I think he was challenging on Dateline, too.
Dateline gave us more footage of Ganesh, and I now have a strong opinion having watched him.
Before I share it with you, what did you think when you watched Ganesh?
An observation: 4.40ish. He seems to be agreeing he had a plan to kill his wife even though he says of course not. He appears to get aggressive around this time also and emotional defending his great life. He doesn’t seem very nice to me. Then ‘absolutely the worst thing Jen would go missing’ he’s shaking his head like he’s saying no. And he doesn’t seem to show much emotion regarding this absolutely worst event. I don’t believe him.
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I thought from quite early on that he was ‘dodgy’ but that could have been because I really didn’t like him.
I didn’t believe him as soon as he started talking, but when he said, “The worst thing that ever happened to me is Jen going missing.” WHAT?!?!? His wife and mother of his children was MURDERED. Wouldn’t that be the worst thing that ever happened to him? Where is his anger toward this mystery killer?
Also, a HUGE GIVEAWAY for me when trying to determine if someone is being sincere is if they don’t wipe their tears away. When fakers manage to squeeze out a tear or two, they always let it just hang on their face to MAKE SURE you notice it. Someone who is really crying wipes their tears immediately, and especially their nose. That is always a red flag for me.
To me, his seeing her Iphone from such a long distance was the lie that sealed the deal. This man seems to have a brain chemistry problem. His brain goes way too fast, and he is in perpetual motion, mentally, physically, and verbally. He doesn’t appear to me to be able to settle down to one wife, or even a wife and a mistress. All of his secrets didn’t come out in this show, and they will be trickling out for the rest of his life.
His big problem was trying to take charge of the investigation. His personality type wouldn’t be consistent with sitting passively by and letting the detectives handle it. When a person never shuts up, they always give away far too many details. and he drowns people with all of his details. He not only says that she kisses him good-bye, he has got to point to the spot and say, right here.
He wanted his mistress, and he was losing her, so he killed his wife. He really bothered me, when he was getting such a kick out of having it all, and how he had no intention of marrying his mistress. He doesn’t have much of a code of ethics of any kind and no remorse. He had no intention of marrying his mistress, but he wasn’t going to give up the affair with her. He couldn’t have been spending much time being a husband to his wife, or a father to his kids, because he was far too busy for that. He could have just gotten a divorce, but he didn’t want his wife to have the kids, so he killed her. At least his mistress was remorseful. This guy should have gone away for first degree murder. He will probably wind up conning the wrong guy in prison, and that will be the end for this guy!
Finding the cell phone was a problem for me too. He made it clear on the 911 call that he didn’t touch it, so how did he know it was hers without picking it up and actually looking at it or turning it on? It didn’t even have a distinctive case on it that would make it more identifiable from a distance.
Oh Dear God, that man is despicable and disgusting to me. I don’t even know where to start. His laughing and smiling were nauseating. The only time anyone who has lost a family member should be smiling in an interview imo is when they’re recalling a loving memory of the deceased…. which he so wasn’t.
The phone… super fishy.
His whole demeanor…. super fishy.
And that “best friend” made me sick too. What she may not realize is that if she had stayed with him, she’d be dead next.
When he spotted the phone I thought it was very bizarre. But I thought he sounded freaked out in the 911 call about the phone. The facebook anecdotes were really bizarre. So by the end of the show, he looked guilty to me. But I did believe him for a really long time.
With his over-activity and his drive for physical perfection, I have questioned if there was any steroid use. If so, that could be responsible for part of his over- activity, but that wouldn’t account for his lack of scruples.
Eyes!
This is off topic but remember the mom who left her 6 month old and 2 year old in a hot car so she could go to a job interview? She failed to allot the required amount of money to the children’s trust funds and is now being tried on the original indictment. I remember what you said about her and you were right. Something was just not right with her. In this case she doesn’t seem to care at all about her children’s futures. Well go figure. Those children wouldn’t be alive today if people hadn’t saved them from that car.
Oh, oh, Libby! Yes, I remember! Do you remember her name? I’d love to look that up!
Yes I do! Shanesha Taylor
Found him so believable in so many segments of the interview. He’s kind of a smooth liar if he is truly guilty.
For me the statement that sealed the deal on his guilt was, “If I killed my wife…” Innocent people don’t even go there. The laughing and smiling about having an affair with his wife’s best friend was nauseating. He was so proud of himself. I am on the fence if the best friend is sincerely sorry. She felt guilty but continued to sleep with him? Um, no. She didn’t want him to divorce his wife because it would hurt her. Well, don’t you think sleeping with her husband would hurt her?
I am a true crime junkie & terrible deception spotter – I watched this (& the McStay brother) without suspecting a thing…. I’m so curious what gave you strong opinions on Ramsaran, Eyes!
Remy has psychopathic tendencies. He thought he was being very clever by pretending to care about his wife. By organizing searches and using social media he was trying to send a message of innocence. He found the phone as a way to say, “Look! Look! I’m helping, so it must not be me!” This was all a mirage to make people think he was not the killer. He frequently started his defenses with, “If I killed her, then why did I….” This really suggests he had researsed and prepared for questioning. He thought he was smarter than the detectives and that proved to be false. As for his crying….give me a few minutes and I could show you a real crying session. Remy is a bit of a psychopath, folks. If you think he’s innocent, then you are really naive and guess what…he fooled you…just what a psychopath wants.