What clue do you use most to gauge the truthfulness of someone?
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Catherine Lesinski says:
Inconsistency. I don’t just mean that the story changes, but rather does the story make sense. Is the motivation for the action consistent? Is this person’s past behavior consistent with the behavior being told to me.
shasha40 says:
Facial expressions , tone . They don’t always match what is being said via the mouth .
Doux says:
Shuffle mouth is a dead give-away to me.
Keith D. says:
I’d have to say probably inconsistencies. Even seasoned liars nearly always seem to have inconsistencies.
Kaun Australis says:
Hey nice to meet you 🙂
I wonder if there are always inconsistencies because liars love to cram as much info into their story as possible to make it more believable? Then when it comes to recalling the event they forget most of their lies lol!?
Don Jr: We have nothing to do with Russia.
Don Jr: I may have met with some people, but not Russians. I don’t remember.
Don Jr: Oh, THOSE Russians. Yeah, I met with them, but not for the reasons you think.
Don Jr: The meeting was for the reasons you thought, but they tricked me and made me think it was about something else. Only these people were there.
Don Jr: In addition to only those people, these people were also there.
Don Jr: Please forward additional questions to my counsel.
Strawberry says:
Hedging
Kaun Australis says:
For me, I find it very easy to remember how people (who i’m familiar with) blink whilst they’re communicating with me. People rarely change the way they blink whilst they are talking about their usual everyday topics and I notice a pattern. When i notice the pattern change it sets off alarm bells so that’s when I start looking for other unusual behaviour patterns that aren’t part of their communicating routine. They’ll start using (what I call) blocking words and their facial expressions rapidly change along with their posture. My partner loves twisting the situation and trying to refocus the blame onto me lol. Anyway enough of that, really cool blog i’m glad i’ve just bumped into it :-)))
Jennifer Kindschi says:
I’m not so good at what Eyes seems to specialize in – seeing if facial expression matches with what an individual is saying.
I have become good at
1. Noticing if a person’s story changes in its details.
2. Noticing places in a person’s story that don’t make sense.
3. Not putting words in a person’s mouth. If what they said doesn’t make sense, I no longer assume that they meant something else. I consider that they are lying.
4. If a person’s emotional reaction to something doesn’t line up with what I think is in the realm of normal, I pay attention.
5. I consider what a person’s motivations are for what they are saying or doing.
These things aren’t always easy, since many of us want to believe the best of people. But ignorance can come at a personal cost. Thank you, Eyes, for helping me develop my abilities!
Russ Conte says:
>What clue do you use most to gauge the truthfulness of someone?
In most of what I’m doing I am one on one (or if you prefer, face to face) with the person in real life. Thus my situation is entirely different from looking at videos or reading transcripts. The difference is I get to ask follow-up questions and double check what the person told me.
I listen with such intensity it’s exhausting. Literally.
Thus I have three advantages that can’t be done with a video (and thus makes what Eyes has done so much more amazing to me!) First, I can compare what the person said now to what they said before – to see if they are internally consistent. Second, (this is something big I learned from Eyes) compare what the person did (or is telling me) to what innocent people in the same situation did. So it’s not just internal inconsistencies, but also checking consistencies against a baseline of people I know in the same situation who are innocent. Third is simple fact checking, whether that’s a drug screen, or verifying education or prior work, etc.
In virtually all situations I do not need to accuse anyone of lying. Obviously I could be wrong if I accuse someone of lying, and there are other issues that can come up, too if I accuse someone of lying. Instead I’ll present what I know and ask the person to explain what happened. I find that vastly more effective than accusing a person of lying.
clownfish says:
Hmm. Usually it has to be someone I know and I’ve noticed a previous lie by accident, say, so I have some idea of what version of lying they do. Different people have different ways. But, I think I’m not good at it. Also, you can be vaguely aware of something, without knowing the what of the something.
When a person repeats a question I just asked. “Did you cheat on this assignment?” “Did I cheat? You’re asking me if I cheated?”
Ray Finn says:
Dialogue
Pingy says:
I look at how wrinkled their forehead gets.
Ernie says:
Unnatural pauses are a big hit for me. Worthy of following up on immediately. Unnecessary head movements are a close second, shrug language is definitely a third. Though, I do feel compelled to state that I’d sooner recommend and discuss the concept of baselining.
Inconsistency. I don’t just mean that the story changes, but rather does the story make sense. Is the motivation for the action consistent? Is this person’s past behavior consistent with the behavior being told to me.
Facial expressions , tone . They don’t always match what is being said via the mouth .
Shuffle mouth is a dead give-away to me.
I’d have to say probably inconsistencies. Even seasoned liars nearly always seem to have inconsistencies.
Hey nice to meet you 🙂
I wonder if there are always inconsistencies because liars love to cram as much info into their story as possible to make it more believable? Then when it comes to recalling the event they forget most of their lies lol!?
Don Jr: We have nothing to do with Russia.
Don Jr: I may have met with some people, but not Russians. I don’t remember.
Don Jr: Oh, THOSE Russians. Yeah, I met with them, but not for the reasons you think.
Don Jr: The meeting was for the reasons you thought, but they tricked me and made me think it was about something else. Only these people were there.
Don Jr: In addition to only those people, these people were also there.
Don Jr: Please forward additional questions to my counsel.
Hedging
For me, I find it very easy to remember how people (who i’m familiar with) blink whilst they’re communicating with me. People rarely change the way they blink whilst they are talking about their usual everyday topics and I notice a pattern. When i notice the pattern change it sets off alarm bells so that’s when I start looking for other unusual behaviour patterns that aren’t part of their communicating routine. They’ll start using (what I call) blocking words and their facial expressions rapidly change along with their posture. My partner loves twisting the situation and trying to refocus the blame onto me lol. Anyway enough of that, really cool blog i’m glad i’ve just bumped into it :-)))
I’m not so good at what Eyes seems to specialize in – seeing if facial expression matches with what an individual is saying.
I have become good at
1. Noticing if a person’s story changes in its details.
2. Noticing places in a person’s story that don’t make sense.
3. Not putting words in a person’s mouth. If what they said doesn’t make sense, I no longer assume that they meant something else. I consider that they are lying.
4. If a person’s emotional reaction to something doesn’t line up with what I think is in the realm of normal, I pay attention.
5. I consider what a person’s motivations are for what they are saying or doing.
These things aren’t always easy, since many of us want to believe the best of people. But ignorance can come at a personal cost. Thank you, Eyes, for helping me develop my abilities!
>What clue do you use most to gauge the truthfulness of someone?
In most of what I’m doing I am one on one (or if you prefer, face to face) with the person in real life. Thus my situation is entirely different from looking at videos or reading transcripts. The difference is I get to ask follow-up questions and double check what the person told me.
I listen with such intensity it’s exhausting. Literally.
Thus I have three advantages that can’t be done with a video (and thus makes what Eyes has done so much more amazing to me!) First, I can compare what the person said now to what they said before – to see if they are internally consistent. Second, (this is something big I learned from Eyes) compare what the person did (or is telling me) to what innocent people in the same situation did. So it’s not just internal inconsistencies, but also checking consistencies against a baseline of people I know in the same situation who are innocent. Third is simple fact checking, whether that’s a drug screen, or verifying education or prior work, etc.
In virtually all situations I do not need to accuse anyone of lying. Obviously I could be wrong if I accuse someone of lying, and there are other issues that can come up, too if I accuse someone of lying. Instead I’ll present what I know and ask the person to explain what happened. I find that vastly more effective than accusing a person of lying.
Hmm. Usually it has to be someone I know and I’ve noticed a previous lie by accident, say, so I have some idea of what version of lying they do. Different people have different ways. But, I think I’m not good at it. Also, you can be vaguely aware of something, without knowing the what of the something.
When a person repeats a question I just asked. “Did you cheat on this assignment?” “Did I cheat? You’re asking me if I cheated?”
Dialogue
I look at how wrinkled their forehead gets.
Unnatural pauses are a big hit for me. Worthy of following up on immediately. Unnecessary head movements are a close second, shrug language is definitely a third. Though, I do feel compelled to state that I’d sooner recommend and discuss the concept of baselining.