Frank Yeomans Warning: Can you spot them?

Clinical Associate Professor of Psychiatry, Frank Yeomans, provides us with very good insight into the malignant narcissist, which is very relevant to every human on the planet.

He details the behaviors of people who are very dangerous, who have caused mass destruction of people and societies across all of history, as well as destroyed many individual lives.

What Dr. Yeomans says is very relevant to current leaders in our news today, on our television, our phone videos and computer monitors. These people reside among us. They seek power and control and dominance at all costs.

Yet, sadly, many people cannot see them as dangerous. They are blind to them.

Are you one of them ? Is this you?

Do you want to know?

When enough people get swept into their deception, another grotesque world genocide repeats.

We are knocking on that door across the world in many countries right now.

Please listen to Dr. Yeomans above. Digest what he says, and think about it.

Who are the people in power or grabbing for it today? Do they have these traits?  Does your political candidate fit any of these behaviors?

Are you able to look past your own biases to see it?  Our own biases will block us from seeing the truth unless we look deeply at ourselves and know what they are and can recognize when they affect us.

How would you feel if you elected someone who was dangerous and harmed many people?  Many people have supported dangerous people in the past before world atrocities happened believing them to be good when they were seriously disturbed.

If you care about your children, our society, your future, our country, the world at large, politics and your own well being, take Dr. Yeomans message to heart. Do not ignore any red flags.

When you see red flags, look deeper.

You may say that all people have bad traits–all leaders are dangerous. We all do have negative traits, but some are far more destructive than others. So before you make a flat rebuttal based on black and white thinking, please consider some are much more likely to cause harm than others.  The red flags are there for all people to see, if you want to see them. Do not excuse them away.

We are at a critical junction right now in America and in the world. We’ve been here before: Do we need another horrific human catastrophe again to wake us all up as Dr. Yeoman’s suggests?

I pray the answer is no.  Please help make this world a better world and educate yourself on dangerous people.

This is my greatest interest today–the dangerous people in our world who will lie to gain anything they can to keep themselves on top and harm you. Stay tuned for more. I have a course I developed that I plan to teach as soon as I am able.

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Joran van der Sloot Confesses to Natalee Holloway’s Murder

Joran van der Sloot has finally confessed to killing Natalee Holloway in a proffer eighteen years after her murder.

He pled guilty earlier this week to trying to extort $250,000 dollars from Natalee’s mother, Beth Holloway.  Be warned, his confession while brief, confesses the bare minimum, and is stone-cold chilling. He lacks any normal emotions and clearly has no remorse or regret: classic behavior of a psychopath.

You can listen to his confession here.

I never believed Joran van der Sloot from day one, and shared the boatloads of clues he left in his interviews.

I’ll provide links to those analysis below.

Were you following me when I wrote about Joran?

Van der Sloot’s confession is missing a lot of detail, if you ask me, but it likely alludes to the basic truth: a violent attack due to rebuffed sexual advances.  You don’t tell a psychopath no.

Van der Sloot also killed Stephanie Flores for rebuffed sexual advances as well in Peru.  He admitted to choking Flores, and I suspect that occurred with Holloway, too, sadly. I suspect he used it as a tool to get compliance for his needs, as horrific as that is to think about before killing these women.

He also creepily paints Natalee as an aggressor to his advances in his–what I would call–an edited confession.  I don’t believe for a minute that she got violent with him first by kicking him in the groin for making sexual advances, as he says. He likely choked her first, if she kicked him at all and it was likely a last ditched effort to get away–realizing she was in life-threatening trouble, sadly.  The truth can be so dark and painful to think about.

Do I think he only went into the water up to his knees? I question it: Would that carry a body away with certainty?  That seems questionable to me just on logic, but maybe the Aruba sea has deep drop offs in that location. I don’t know.

We don’t have the whole story here, and never will sadly. Not with a psychopath like Joran.

So this confession?  In my eyes, it’s a whitewashed version and told in a way that still protects Joran. He doesn’t want you to see all of him, still. But he at least owns it for Beth Holloway. I think she needed that to move on.

Looking back at what I wrote over a decade ago is also very chilling to read it now knowing his confession.

You can read my analysis from the Chris Cuomo interview in 2006 here. Or you can browse through all the posts I did over the years on this case by clicking here and here.

My heart goes out to the Holloway family to have to endure this psychopath for so long. Hopefully, they can move on with the lovely memories of Natalee, and find some healing, if that is possible.

Alex Murdaugh Smiling during Buster’s testimony

I’ve been watching snippets of the Alex Murdaugh trial the last couple of days.  He is a very skilled liar who can lie without any stress, which is very rare.  Not that he hasn’t expressed stressed, don’t get me wrong. He clearly has. When he gets in his head and his mind starts racing at the reality facing him, he truly stresses out and shows a bit of an unraveling, but only he freaks out at his own pain, sadly!  Not when he lies. That doesn’t bother him one iota.

I was scanning through Alex’s son Buster’s testimony briefly this morning when I encountered his smile expression on Alex that was rather chilling to me.

Does he look like a man on trial for the murder of his wife and son when you see that smile?

He was so content in this moment when his son Buster testifies it is mind blowing, but certainly fits the criteria of someone who suffers from a serious pathology and a person who is capable of doing such a horrific crime.

Do I believe Alex Murdaugh?  I do not. If you were falsely accused of murdering your wife or husband, and your child, could you ever sit so content and relaxed before being cleared?  Most people could not!

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Alex Murdaugh Trial: My Opinion

MY THOUGHTS ON THE CASE

Many people are interested in the murder trial of Alex Murdaugh, a lawyer from a prominent legal family for decades in South Carolina, accused of killing his son and wife.

To me, as the story was unfolding in the news in 2021, I was dumbfounded at the multiple one-in-a-million scenarios that were swirling around Murdaugh.  When you see that, always take notice.  Bad things can happen 1-in-a-million times, maybe twice: but three, four or five times??

No, that’s too unlikely with just plain old statistical odds alone.

That’s your first massive red flag.

Then when that person with these multiple 1-in-a-million odd stories, turns out to be an admitted liar?  And are caught in lie after lie after lie?

Your red flags are on FIRE!

Just say’n.

ON FIRE in capital letters!

Murdaugh is riddled with inconsistencies everywhere I looked and still look.

Above and beyond the murders of his son and wife, he is facing over 100 charges (according to the news I am reading) for money laundering, stealing millions from the family business and clients, to tax evasion, and being involved in roadside shooting incident that has hotter than coals on fire when it happened where his living son stood to gain $10 million in insurance money.

I am still open to look at clips of the case, if people want to post them in the comments.  Everyone should have a right to a fair trial.

I do have one question for anyone who believes him, why do you believe him, if you would courageously share it with me privately or in the comments.

HEADSHAKES

I know people are looking at his testimony to see what clues he drops.  In the video above, a reader has asked, does Alex Murdaugh’s headshakes indicate deception?

My answer is no.

This is not a classical presentation of an inconsistent nod or head shake.  To understand headshakes, you must understand human behavior at a deeper level.

It’s not black and white.

Murdaugh’s headshakes are a rather odd behavior, to be honest.

I’m scratching my head with them. I want to see more:  Is this being done intentionally because he knows about this signal so he is trying to confuse us?

Or is this just a weird behavioral quirk unique to Murdaugh?

I suspect it is the latter, but he is a polished liar so I am curious about the first!  If you see more videos of him doing this–please post links and time makers!! I’d like to figure this out.

Does he do it at other times when answering questions? Is it consistent when he tells the truth and lies? We have him caught in enough lies to look at this. If he only does it with his lies, it will make me go hmmm….

WHO DOES THIS?

If you watch Murdaugh in multiple interviews, you can clearly see this man can lie without a flinch, with no outward signs in interviews.

There are people who can do this. Always know this! But its very rare.

The most evil among us are capable of this, and often can get away with a lot of crimes because they can not only lie without any emotional remorse, BUT they know how to play on other people’s emotions skillfully and with precision to fool them!

Many highly intelligent psychopaths get away with some horrific stuff because of this.

Is Murdaugh a psychopath?  It is plausible here.

To get up on the stand in a case like this is ultra-risky, but it is a common practice for psychopaths to do. They think they are brilliant due to all the lies they pulled off successfully over their lifetime. They become so arrogant and cocky they keep convincing themselves they can fool anyone. And Murdaugh being a lawyer, too, he may continue to think he can fool the jury without question.

But I don’t think in this case Murdaugh will do that successfully.

He is grasping at straws to say he lied to investigators about being at the kennels the night of the murders because he didn’t trust SLED, and that he had addiction and was paranoid. Oh, he was paranoid alright but not for the reasons he said.  Skilled liars love to lay bits of truth at people’s feet to confuse them.

He was paranoid–that is the truth!! He was afraid that they would connect the dots way before he was prepared  to answer!  And to that point, he further tries to earn people’s sympathy that night by saying another TRUTHFUL FACT, “I don’t think I was capable of reason.”

That’s the truth! But yikes!!  I can imagine his defense team was cringing like crazy when he said that! That was a huge slip up, if you ask me.

He now has put himself at the location of the crime within minutes of when it occurred and admitted he didn’t think he was capable of reason that night.  He’s clearly not as smart as he thought he was.

 

Casey Anthony: Where The Truth Lies Analysis

If you’ve watched Casey Anthony Where The Truth Lies, your head should be spinning!  Casey’s words here are all over the place, which is common place for liars who weave complex stories. Casey admits herself that she is a liar–a convicted liar–so this is something you should never forget.

Her entire premise for doing this interview in the end is to blame her dad for killing Caylee, which is done in a very indirect and odd manner, and to say that she was supposedly abused and raped by her dad as a child. Furthermore, Casey wants you to believe as an abused child that she was just continuing the mindset of doing what abused people do–doing what she was “told”.

Was Casey in a toxic environment?  Quite possibly. We all witnessed the family in the media struggling in a very high stress situation so you have to take that with an element of caution–all people can look crazy in high stress. So there is some gray there, but it is not as Casey is painting it. Many people grow up in toxic environments, and do not go on to compulsively lie and steal as Casey does. Some do, some don’t. But those who religiously comply with their abusers? They don’t act defiantly as Casey did. That is inconsistent!

Many people want to make a black and white decision. Casey is either completely lying or she isn’t.  While some cases of deception are black and white, many times, there is a complex mix of truths and lies. That’s what successful liars do — they blend the truth and lies together so you can’t find reality. And Casey admits that, too! But then she (and other liars) play on YOUR emotional vulnerabilities, twist facts and make you question yourself.  Casey checks all the boxes.

There are many clues in this series as to what the truth and lies are.  I could write a book just on this series. So I am going to point out some elements mostly from episode 1 that paint a pretty clear picture for you.

When the producer asks Casey why she wants to talk to them now without creative control, Casey shows two non-verbal shrugs of doubt (which I teach in my training), and says “I just need someone to listen.”  It’s as if she is just rambling off the top of her head, not giving us a sincere, thought-out answer. She is thinking on her feet here, and shows doubt about what she is saying.  It doesn’t support she has a clear thought out purpose for the interview.

Casey Anthony then says she wants to make her daughter proud and to honor her daughter properly. If you look closely she makes a very subtle microexpression of contempt  when she says to “honor her properly”.   You may struggle to see it.  But it is powerful. She is expressing contempt when saying she wants to honor her daughter.  That’s a complete contradiction to her words and reveals the truth of what she actually believes.

Furthermore, she says, “I am responsible for answering everyone in the world’s questions about my daughter’s death.”  When she says this, she makes the most intense and powerful expression that is a combination of anger and disgust.  She is ultimately expressing her emotions that being responsible for answering for her daughter’s death disgusts her and makes her angry!

WOW. That says it all.

Her facial expressions are revealing that she feels completely different to the words she is speaking! It’s utterly mind blowing when you watch it.

Casey feels disgusted that SHE is responsible to answer questions about her daughter’s death!   To me that is completely inconsistent to the what she just told us–that she wants to make her daughter proud and honor her properly.  It actually reveals that she doesn’t give a damn about her daughter at all. It’s all about her being the victim here, which is typical for her personality type.

She should CARE to get justice for her daughter, but that isn’t even in the cards or consideration, is it?  No where does she want to hold George accountable outright nor does she call for it. It’s strikingly missing as are many details of the story she wants us to believe.

Casey says of her work with her defense team that she wants to give back to others as she doesn’t want another person to be “pigeon-holed or railroaded” as she has.

What on earth? Pigeon-holed and railroaded?  This is a load of nonsense no matter how you slice this case or what you believe!

Even if we believed Casey’s story–that she is truthful (not saying she is or isn’t here), that she was abused, and that her dad killed Caylee (which I am not saying is the case)–she CANNOT CLAIM she was railroaded. This is total bullshit.

Casey railroaded herself  by her own actions of pathologically lying and her carefree attitude after Caylee went missing. She railroaded herself by stealing and telling lie upon lie upon lie. Don’t let this woman fool you!

An honest person who is having an “honest awakening” would see this and would own up to it–that they railroaded themselves even if it was a horrible situation.

Casey later then plays the other side of the story and says, “I made myself look crazy…as far as I am concerned there is no justifying my actions or behavior.”  This is a ploy to keep people thinking, see she is honest!  It’s a manipulative tactic!

Several times in the interview, we hear Casey refer to Caylee as  the “kid”. Did you notice? This is distancing herself from her child who she claims to want to honor. I find it deeply troubling. Would you refer to your dear sweet child who was murdered or killed as “kid”? It has zero endearment!  I doubt many parents of lost children would.

I think many people will be thrown for a loop by the testimonials of people who say Casey loved Caylee.   Did it make you question yourself?  Let me say this:  Manipulators will often play a loving mother, a caring kind person in front of others, but once the door closes–the truth is very different. And here, we have evidence of that when Casey complains of not being able to have fun due to motherhood in texts to her friend Richardo on Facebook.  She texts about Caylee, “I’m going crazy over here. At least the kid is passed out.”  Does that sound like a loving mother?   It doesn’t.

When I watch George Anthony talk to investigators about the last time he saw Caylee, I see no indicators that he is lying.

Casey is HONEST when she says that she felt “nothing” when talking to the 911 operators.  I found that fascinating that she would admit it.  She knows this is off and calls it “weird”. She knows she doesn’t feel normal emotions of loss and empathy. It puzzles even her.

The other element I have trouble with in this interview is that if Casey wants to accuse her father of rape and murder, then own it 100%. Say it clearly, but instead she is very convoluted when you listen to her accusations. She says things in twisted ways and beats around the bush. It’s hard to swallow. I see it as manipulative. Could there have been abuse?  Yes, there could have been. I can’t rule it out by watching her as she does show some emotional response, but I can’t say conclusively either because she is such a pathological liar. It would take more interviews to say conclusively, and at what level.

Casey says, “Over the past few months, I’ve been really having vivid dreams and its obvious that they are dreams of things that have already happened. I “THINK” my dad used to do the same thing to me.”

Think??? She doesn’t know???  She is clearly evasive and indirect–continually, which is suspicious. She just can’t quite own it outright, directly and call for accountability for her daughter–which clearly supports what we saw in the beginning of this interview.  It isn’t actually about Caylee. It’s about HER.

Casey tells you that she lied her whole life because that was what was expected of her. And then she changes her tune and says, “I completely replicated by father’s behavior during those 31 days.”  Only during those 31 days??!!  The insanity.

She goes on to say, “I used and manipulated all of the people around me in an attempt to appear normal.”  You used and manipulated people to appear normal?  How ridiculous–she is just excusing her behavior with no accountability.  None whatsoever.

When Casey says about her tattoo “Bella Vita”, “It was a fuck you to my family.”  That is true without question. But it likely is much darker than that. It was to the world. She was finally free, I think, of Caylee, and that was her celebration.  It’s horrible to think about.

Another chilling part in the interview for me is when Casey says about getting the tattoo, ” I got the tattoo in the first place, especially during that time period because that was a subconscious way for me to a…(grin) speak out against all of it.”

Her story of being raped as to how she conceived Caylee is questionable. There are hot spots throughout. She leaves off pronouns, she has subtle undertones of positive emotions the entire time she is talking about it, and then she says, “The first person I would have told would have been my mom. Would she have believed me?”

Would have told?  That’s an “as if it happened” statement — not a memory! A real recollection would have been, I  couldn’t tell my mom! She never would have believed me, or she would have blamed me or whatever. So I call B.S. on that one.

When she talks about how soon she figured out she was pregnant, she says almost immediately. We see disgust here. She was clearly disgusted she was pregnant yet tells us earlier that getting pregnant with Caylee was the best thing that ever happened to her.  She is constantly playing both sides.

When Casey cries over how it all hurts her, in my opinion, she is crying over HER pain from the ordeal–of being social isolated, rejected and not able to have a public life anymore. I don’t see any sadness for Caylee whatsoever. I think she did this interview in hopes of gaining sympathy and maybe some acceptance. Life has thrown her to the curb, without question.

Many people think Caylee died by accident.  I want to say that I do NOT see any evidence of that. And this is why:  If Caylee died by accident –which could be in the pool or by a drug overdose from sleeping medication given to her by Casey–then Casey would have some emotional response to that because she would have lost her daughter to an accident — unexpectedly. She wouldn’t have gone out and celebrated and partied for 30 days.  She would have felt the pain of that. She would have reacted differently.

No, this story is much, much darker. This is a woman who tired of her “kid”, who wanted to party with the other young adults her age, and Casey, in her dark moments, ended that life, and was very happy about it as we have evidence by that tattoo and life in those 30 days. You do not see a woman who is mourning the accidental death of her child. That information there tells the truth more loud and clear than anything else.

How could she have done it?  Remembering that Casey tells half-truths, I wonder if the pillow talk she gave saying it was her dad putting a pillow on her to knock her out, was actually her projecting what she did to her child.  It sure makes me wonder.