James Henslee Interview

 

Amy Henslee was a stay at home mom in Michigan who went missing last week on Monday. According to her husband, he called her at home per his daily ritual at in the morning and when Amy didn’t answer, he went home to check on her. When she wasn’t home by 4 PM, he called the police to report her missing. The police didn’t respond until 10 PM that night, thinking Amy left voluntarily, though she had no car and left her purse at home.

Read moreAmy’s body was sadly found with her friend, Tonya Howarth, shot to death three days later. Howarth was dating Amy’s husband’s cousin, Junior Lee Beebe. Howarth and Beebe had be cohabitating on and off for several years.

In this video above, Amy’s husband James talks about his wife.

James clearly doesn’t have normal emotions–negative emotions–one would expect when a loved one is murdered. It definitely raises my eyebrows. He says, “Those big brown eyes–that smile, nobody could resist her.”

James says, “It’s been rough…you know, its been rough, but Amy’s with me and she’s keeping me strong for our kids and….because she wants…our kids to be happy… and so… I’m hanging in there.”

James also shows no stress in his forehead, which is surprising.

About talking to the couples children about the murder of their mother, James say, “I just told them that I talked to God and ah…he said that he needed their mother top help him out, you know….so she can make a difference in the world–so she can help other people. That’s wha…that’s who she is…she’s a helper. She helps everybody she can in any way. It’s like she’s always wanting to be in the hospital to help children, and she’s always at the schools helping children, everything. She was put on this earth to help people, and she’s going to keep helping people.”

James seems to have no anger, no sadness–no negative feelings and it doesn’t sit right with me. Why isn’t he mad about his wife being murdered? Why isn’t he upset that she is gone? He seems to have no problem accepting the outcome. He talks about her in past tense so its not shock or denial.

James says he lives in a great town, has great friends and family…everything appears to be just “great’, doesn’t it?

When he is asked what memory is keeping him warm right now, I see James Henslee shrug his shoulder as if he thinking, I don’t know … then he says, “Just that smile of hers and getting to tell her that I loved her everyday and the love — that love keeps me holding on.” Yet ironically, he is as empty as a tin can when he says it.

He says, “Just the way she says things and puts it out there, its just lovely.” I’m not buying it.

The reporter says I would be remiss if I didn’t ask you about DJ and all of that. James says, “You know I don’t have a whole lot of information. I haven’t talked to detectives or anything, and I haven’t even had the TV on because its just hard to deal with, I have a lot going on and ah, Amy is just a great person and loving and we’ve had a tight relationship for years…”

You would think the first thing he would want to know is WHY???! but strangely he doesn’t. This pings me as very unusual.

The reporter says, “Is there something you’d want to ask him?” and James shakes his head no. It’s notable. Then he sighs in frustration and thinks. He then says after he shakes his shoulder implying he is thinking I don’t know and says, “Ask him what the hell is wrong with him.” Clearly, this was not an authentic response. If you notice, he shakes his head yes when he finishes as if he is confirming that was the right thing to say. It’s a red flag. Then he has the subtlest expression of fear on his face that is almost not even measurable. You can almost feel his heart racing at this point. He is uncomfortable. Why is uncomfortable here?

When he is asked if he wants to say anything else, he ironically talks about the working dogs.

James talks about how the police need to respond as soon as someone thinks something is wrong, but in the same sentence he says, “We couldn’t have stopped what had happened…”

WHAT?

How could he know that??? Most events can be stopped if we get there in time. Have police told him they know she was shot immediately? How could he know that his wife couldn’t have been saved at that time? This bothers me. We need to do some fact checking. Has a time of death been floated around? Is there evidence they were shot on the spot and buried?

James says about calling Amy every day in the morning, “It’s going to be hard to get back in that routine without being able to ah (smile, grin, shoulder shrug) associate with her like that, you know? And listen to that beautiful voice and come home to that smiling face, but thinking of that, keeps me strong.”

Associate with her like that??

James doesn’t act like a victim of a crime here, which he clearly is, if he had nothing to do with the crime. I think some digging is in order on this case.

I am suspicious of James from his behavior…and while this interview isn’t conclusive, it puts me on high, high alert!

Coolest Video HD GoPro

I ran into this video today by accident and found it to be really cool. Not only is the footage cool, but to see these athletes and dare-devils up-close during their high-risk sports and to not see any fear or high stress in their face — mind-blowing!!

Do click full-screen to watch this high quality little camera at its best!  And don’t think it is expensive…these cameras start in the mid-$200 range.  That’s nbelievable.  Wishing I was more of an athlete today!  I’d get one of these little cameras. Very cool!

Distrusting Easier to Dupe?

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Are you a distrusting person?  Do you wonder what people’s motives are often?  Do you feel strangers will take advantage of you, if given the opportunity?

Old wisdom was if you are trusting, you’re the fool. New research puts that belief to rest.  The most trusting of people among us, research shows, are the best lie detectors, and I am not surprised.

As someone who sees lies frequently, I know that most lies are not mean nor malicious — these are the rarity. Most lies are harmless, first and foremost, and really don’t involve the person being lied to at all.  But second, I believe harmful and malicious liars give away signals long before they are even aware of it, which gives me confidence I will spot them before I am hurt, so the reality is I don’t worry about it.

In looking back at people who I have encountered who had bad intentions, I can tell you I was on to them long before they think they dropped a clue, and when I dropped them like a hot potato, they were typically stunned, often clueless as to why–not knowing the little inconsistencies they left as a trail leading up to them.  It’s rather funny in hindsight.

Scientists wonder how do people who trust people and who are good at spotting lies get that way. Is it because they take more risks, get more social exposure, and hence more experience?  They learn from their mistakes?  Or are they just more sensitive and have an innate ability that predisposes them to pick up the clues better than others — hence giving them the confidence that they know they will spot the clues before they have worry?

I have to say I am not a risk taker. I prefer to calculate my odds and have a plan that has a good chance of succeeding.  I also was not a highly social person in life either.  I have always been quite content to spend my time alone.  While I can be very outgoing when I am out, I am also quite happy to stay home, so I don’t think for me it was due to lots of social exposure either.  I personally think I was able to be comfortable with people because I innately saw the signs of danger before they were harmful to me, and that allowed me to become more trusting than I otherwise would have been.

Another synopsis of the research can be found here.

Diena Thompson Meets with Billie Dunn

Diena Thompson gave a grant from the Somer Thompson Foundation to Billie Dunn to pay her bills for the month while she is going through this difficult time. BigCountryhomepage.com has the story and video.

Diena Thompson’s daughter, Somer Thompson, went missing in 2009 and was later found in a landfill. After several months, police arrested a local guy for the murder, but his trial has not yet started.

Diena Thompson  said to the reporter in tears, “Makes you feel like its you again, like its your story again.”

“There aren’t words in the English literature or any other, you know, language for me to express to anyone what it feels like to be in this situation–to be in this club that nobody wants to belong to, and the dues are way too high,” said Diena.

Diena says, “I hope that Somer is looking down on her mommy, and proud.”

Billie Dunn said, “For her to understand it so perfectly, um, there’s things that she can tell me, things that I can tell her…we can talk about and we completely understand.”

I have always found Diena Thompson to be unusual and I have always believed she knew more than she has told us.

Thanks, Seeker, for the update.