Many of you have asked me to look at the Barbara Walters interview of Mary Kay Letourneau and Vili Fualaau. Many people saw a lot of emotions in Vili which they weren’t sure how to interpret.
When I watched Vili, I see a man trying to find himself after living a very chaotic life. I see a man who is still discovering who he is, who is confused about how society let him get into the situation he was in and has now ultimately ended up.
Vili explained in the interview that no one helped him through this difficult time. Even school counselors didn’t seem to know how. Plus he didn’t have a good support system in place at home either.
Furthermore, Vili said, “I don’t support younger kids being married or having a relationship with someone older. I don’t support it.”
This clearly indicates that Vili likely wouldn’t chose to live the life he has to date with Mary Kay Letourneau, if he could chose again, knowing what he knows today. And yet he has stayed. I wonder if he feels he has no one else? The world can be a lonely place. And then he has faced depression.
Mary Kay seems clueless about it. She seems to believe that by doing this interview she would convince the world they found “true love”. I am not sure Mary Kay even understands what love is, sadly. I see her as someone who goes through the motions, without forming true attachments. She clearly has a lot of issues herself, and is not the mentor Vili needs.
I think Mary Kay lives in an illusion, and Vili in confusion.
Mary Kay acted more like a mom then a wife to Vili–answering questions for both of them, and Villi seems to have gotten used to these dynamics. Why wouldn’t he? He was taken in by a woman who took advantaged and preyed him when he was very young and vulnerable.
I think we can assume the only positive support Vili got in his life was from Mary Kay (where the word positive is clearly debatable), and if she was his best option, you can understand his dire circumstances and confusion today as an adult.
I think Mary Kay has intellectual challenges, too, and perhaps Vili is slowly uncovering he may be the gifted one between the two of them. Without guidance, Vili has had a lot of adult problems to work through at a very young age. It has to make it doubly hard.
I hope Vili continues to find himself, and has the courage to step out into the world on his own. He’s faced a lot of difficulties in life, no doubt, but his life is really just beginning and if he is not happy, he should feel absolutely free to start again!