Trump in his own words…

Does Trump have something to do with Russia? I think Trump answers this for himself.

This behavior is called pathological lying.

Things That Cross My Mind

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If there is one thing that I do incessantly it is try to understand the world around me. I am endlessly curious. If a group of people “A” do one thing, then why do others do “B”? What motivates them? What is their truth?

Like everyone, I am watching the news on Ebola very closely trying to gauge how it could impact me and our world. As someone who travels for a living, I need to know what is going on so I can take the necessary precautions to protect myself, and keep me and my business healthy.

One element that has me very curious right now is the bio-hazard cleanups that occurred in four Ebola cases that we know of here in the U.S. And it raises questions for me, and leaves me with no concrete answers to understand.

We have been told that the only way Ebola is transmitted is through direct contact with body fluids. And we’ve also been told that Ebola can only live on surfaces for a short period of time. I suspect these are both truths from what we know to date. I have little reason to doubt anyone about this at this point.

I did some digging and found the longest studied documented case of Ebola surviving on another substance was 6 days.

So when someone comes down with Ebola, why are we severely gutting their apartments?

See what they did to Amber Vinson’s apartment here.

I can understand saying the apartment is a danger zone and banning people from entry for a week or two, and cleaning out perishable foods and liquids, and any contaminants such as blood or vomit, but to remove 53 barrels of waste material and call it hazardous from a small apartment is unsettling. They removed nearly everything.

It seems completely inconsistent and has me scratching my head in curiosity.

Also, I wouldn’t think they would want to send anyone in for a week to make sure we don’t further contaminate people unnecessarily.  Why take undue risks that aren’t necessary?  Let the virus die if it is there.

If they just did a basic sanitation and closed and locked the door for two weeks, you would think that would be sufficient, but by the actions we see people doing, they don’t believe it is. And who makes these decisions?  What are the laws? Are we just reacting out of fear?  What is the truth here? Is there fear Ebola could be spread through the air?

Then I was shocked to read the fiancee of the doctor in New York City, Morgan Dixon, went back to the apartment they shared with Craig Spencer, the first NYC doctor to return from Africa and get Ebola.  After a 1-day bio-cleanup in his apartment, she returned there again.   You can surmise if she was able to return to that apartment to live in it, it obviously wasn’t nearly as stripped as what we saw happen to the Texas for the nurses apartments, without question.

Why the differences?

And so I ask what is the truth here? Are people simply reacting in panic? Is this only going to happen in apartments to alleviate fears of the remaining residence? Is this overly cautious behavior?  Or is there more to this?

Can we continue to do this if we get a bigger outbreak?  Is this reasonable?

Right now I do not have the answers…I am watching closely to learn more.



Not Now

Denial is something that we all witness on a regular basis. It’s when a person doesn’t want to accept or cannot accept the truth, and hence they push it away. They either deny what is obvious to others, or they refuse to talk about, or they discount anything said to them is logical.

Denial is a mechanism that can be used by our own body to preserve our sanity, or it can bring us to the brink of insanity.

Denial can happen in two ways:  subconscious or conscious denial. 

When children kill, I have seen parents go into a subconscious denial. It’s quite common and its a coping mechanism for survival.  The idea that one’s own flesh and blood has killed someone is simply too much for the brain to cope with, and hence the body literally rejects the idea at every turn. It’s understandable.  It would not be easy for a parent to rationalized that they produced a killer in physical form, if no other.

Other parents of homicidal children display indications that they are living in plain old conscious denial.  They know the truth, but don’t want to accept or talk about it. That’s the difference.  In subconscious denial, they have no idea they are in denial whereas conscious denial they do, but reject the concepts with knowledge of their inconsistency.

Some of you have asked me, how do I know if I am in denial?  This is an excellent question.

When people disagree with you, and you refuse to consider their point of view–this is the simplest form of denial that can lead to a growing problem. If you get defensive when someone doesn’t agree with you, and you can’t listen to an opposing opinion–take note!  A good sign of this is you get into heated discussions with people about your topic and can’t find people who agree with you.

To ensure you are not in denial, you need to not only be able to calmly listen to other people’s opinion and be able to take them into fair consideration, but you must be able to rationalize your thoughts to most people and have a sense that you are understood by others.  It’s when we can’t agree with others and we are isolated in our opinion that denial becomes a distinct possibility.

So how do you know you are truly understood?  I would look for true interactive discussions. If people are sharing back supportive ideas with you, and elaborating on your thought process with their own independent ideas, you have a good idea that your thought process is not just your own, but congruent with other people.

It’s when people don’t elaborate or get into discussions with you, but simply politely smile back at you and nod their head, without having a discussion that you should take note. It could be simply because they don’t want to have a discussion, or it would be that they think your thinking is off and that you are not seeing something clearly.  

So, how do you find the answer to this question?  You simply engage more people!  If a handful of people refuse to engage in a conversation with you–people who you know normally would, it’s a red flag.  Or if a handful of people disagree with you and cannot see your perspective — you need to do some self-assessing. You could be in denial.

People who are in conscious denial will slowly isolate themselves away from the people who disagree with them, and they will protect their denial by isolation and removal.  They will then try to seek out people who agree with them and try to hang out with those people–rejecting the others.  Or they will fight frantically to keep their beliefs powerful.  They may rage at simple and normal discussions because they feel they are being threatened in their belief system.

A person who is an independent thinker and who is not in denial will be able to engage in discussions, share ideas, ponder different points of view, and will feel confident about their opinions without any negative feelings.

Happy Holidays!

Deception, Denial and Delusion

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We started an interesting conversation with Cindy Anthony on deception versus denial yesterday. How can we tell when a person is being deceptive versus when they are in denial? As I thought about it, I also wondered how to differentiate delusions in all of this (outside of psychosis)?

Denial, defined by the, is medically defined as “a primitive–ego defense–mechanism by which a person unconsciously negates the existence of a …stress-producing reality in his environment.” I’ve seen other places add “in the presence of overwhelming evidence to the contrary”.

Delusion, defined by the Free, is defined as “a belief held in the face of evidence to the contrary, that is resistant to all reason.”

I feel I have a good understanding of these, but I am not able to verbalize it so I thought it would be fun to see if we as a group can narrow these down and create a list of how to determine if someone is each of these things. What differentiates each of these? What are unique attributes to each of them?