Tiger Woods Speaks Again
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I really enjoyed seeing Tiger Woods in this latest interview. Why? Because he is being so down to earth and humble over his mistakes. He is showing his human side. He is facing his mistakes head-on, talking about them and he is even showing us that he is insecure about golfing in front of the public again. That’s three stars for Woods!
What other famous, rich person have you seen do this?
Read moreI honestly can’t think of another apology, off hand, where the person was so humble. Usually, the stars have a chip on their shoulder that is so huge, even after admissions and an apology, the arrogance steams off of them like hot pavement being hit by a cool summer rain. This is absolutely missing from Woods and a strong indication he means what he is saying.
When someone apologizes to me, this is what I need:
a). I need to hear the apologizer say what they did wrong: repeatedly, if I need it. If they can’t do it–forget the apology.
b). I need to see them say it in a humble way: any sign of arrogance or resistance–forget about it! They haven’t accepted their actions and are not sorry.
c). I need them to allow me to ask questions like “Why did you do this”? If the person can’t discuss it how I need to discuss it and as often as I need to discuss it, and give me what I need, they haven’t come to terms with what they did wrong.
d). I need the apologizer to let me chose the time frame to accept that apology. If someone wants instant gratification that I forgive them, it’s over. I am the one who is hurt and considering giving them a second chance. That means the relationship, to begin with a second time, is on my terms. PERIOD. They hurt me and now they need to give me the space to heal as I need to do so, if they are truly regretful.
I’m a tough cookie with apologies. Hurt me once, shame on you. Hurt me twice, shame on me for not demanding what I needed! My guidelines have sniffed out a lot of no-so-sorry people in my life. Thank god!