Understanding People Through Faces

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Do you ever take the time to look at a person’s face to see what it is communicating?  We naturally decode emotions such as happiness, and sadness, anger and surprise, but do you look at a face deeper for more revealing information?

To my surprise most people don’t.

Do you look to see if someone is open or closed off?  For example, in the photo above, do you think the girl would be receptive to you if you made a request  to help you pick up some books in a school library?  Or do you think she’d reject you? And why do you think that?

Do you think this girl is an extrovert or an introvert?

I don’t personally know this child, but she reveals key elements about her personality by her facial features and expression.  She shows a very slight shyness. Can you see it?  Yet she shows a symmetrical face. Symmetrical people are often very outgoing.  Yet she shows a “grounded nature” about her–no arrogance or superiority.  These attributes all can give you an indication of how someone might behave, if you think about it.

A slightly shy person is likely to be very polite.  A symmetrical faced-person is likely quite social in comfortable settings.  With these two things, I suspect this young girl would be helpful when asked to assist someone in a safe environment such as a library. She would be very polite.

Can you see that?

Faces reveal so much information about people, it’s truly astounding. And once you can discern a few elements from a face, you can logically deduce many other attributes about people successfully.

Take for example someone who shows tension on their face, when you see anger, do you think that person has a higher propensity to lash out?  Of course they do.  It’s not a guarantee, but its a higher propensity.  Compare that person to a person with a relaxed happy face who shows a sign of anger. Do you think they would have a high probability to lash out?  Not near as likely.

Here is an article that talks about some of the discoveries science is making about our face and personality:
Does Your Face Tell Anything About Your Personality?

Next time you have a few minutes, look at someone’s face and ponder some basic questions. Can you see if they are introverted or extroverted? Are they tense?  Do they appear relaxed? Are their signs of stress in the face?  What can these reveal?

Cal Harris 4th Trial: Not Guilty

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For those of you who have followed the Cal Harris case out of Tiago County, New York, you’ve likely seen that a judge found Harris not guilty in his forth trial recently. CBS’s 48 Hours aired the story this past weekend.

Harris is a financially well off businessman whose wife went missing in 2001. She has never been found.

In the first two trials, Harris was convicted of murder, but got the cases overthrown. In his third trial, the jury was hung, and in the last trial, by judge only, Harris finally gets his freedom and is found not guilty.

I have written about this case over the years. You can search my blog for more articles.

What do you think about Cal Harris? Do you think he got justice? Or was there a travesty of justice for his wife, Michele?

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Home Invasion Suspect Says Sorry

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Caleb Williams, 21, broke into a home with two other people. He knew people were home when he went in. In this interview, he says he is sorry about what he did.

Do you believe him?

I think this interview will cause a split in how people see him. I suspect it will be pretty divided. What do you think? Do you think Caleb is honest or lying?

You can read the news story here.

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Alexander and Emily Fazzino (Dateline)

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Did you catch “The Quiet One” on Dateline NBC this past week?

It was the story of Alexander and Emily Fazzino.  Emily, 32, went to take a bath, according to her husband Alexander. He said about 30 minutes after she went up to take a bath, he still heard the water running.  So he went to check on his wife.  He found her in the bathtub purple, with her tongue swollen.

Alexander was arrested and charged with Emily’s murder. He went to trial, and was found not guilty.

After watching the show, I found this article to share some very interesting facts.

What do you think?  Do you think Alexander is innocent or do you think he is lying?

I think there is some fascinating elements to this case.

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What is the secret to success?

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I have always believed that the truth naturally rewards you with self-confidence, and telling lies naturally brings on insecurity, self-doubt and poor self-esteem, and so with that, I have chosen to be exceptionally honest in my life.  As I matured into adulthood, however, I was stunned to find many people, even experts, don’t believe you can or should be honest. They believe lies are essential–a required element in life.

This has always perplexed me, and I can tell you few people see it like I do.  So when I was reading online the other day and I opened up a link–I was pleasantly surprised at what I read.  I found someone who is only mentioned by his first name, Peter, because he is an angel investor, but what he said was so beautiful to read!

Peter was quoted by Rebekah, who wrote the article, and shared her conversation with Peter about the secret to success.

Rebekah expected Peter to say all the things most people tell you about achieving success–“never give up” to the old cliche slogans on t-shirts, but he didn’t.

What did Peter say was the secret to success?

He said it “…is to never, ever, ever tell a lie”!

Imagine that?

He then went on to say…

“Complete honesty is the access to ultimate power.”

Think about it.

It’s true.

I have always lived by the principle of honesty in my life and it truly has rewarded me over and over again. I honestly can’t think of one negative that has come from being honest.  Not one.

I just love how Peter said it!

Complete honesty does give you power for many reasons. Not aggressive negative power, but positive power. It fills your sails–it propels you forward with self-confidence.  Furthermore, you are upfront with yourself because you have to own up to your failures. You can’t hide them or run from them–sweeping them up or ignore them because you are honest and you will talk about them and acknowledge them.

Instead, by facing your failures–you make changes. You grow and learn, and move on to new and better experiences.  And that gives you more self-confidence.  You begin to believe in yourself more and more, because you are building everything on honesty and integrity.

You also learn that when you admit your failures, people don’t actually judge you nearly as harshly as you thought!  Most people understand we all make mistakes! It’s when people don’t admit to their mistakes that people judge harshly.

Furthermore, when you tell the truth, you aren’t overloaded with managing your lies, and you can focus on what is truly important. You also won’t contradict yourself down the line, or say things that are inconsistent. So many people are inconsistent on a daily basis and have no clue–because they aren’t honest with themselves, let alone other people.

People do catch on to lies–no matter how subtle, and they take notice and just one lie caught can cause people to distrust you. And those lies do hurt you in business and in your personal life.

There really isn’t one positive element to lying.

When you lie, you come across as insincere, fake and not genuine. Who wants to be seen like that?

So next time you talk to someone–pay attention. Are you about to tell a lie?

Do you really have to lie?  Or can you say something else?

I believe you can always be honest, polite and never rude or offending.  The key is to focus on what is true and positive, and take honesty step-by-step.

Give it a try and tell me how it goes. It truly is a beautiful feeling to always be honest, and in the end, it may help you achieve the success you’ve always dreamed about!