Long Pause Equal Deception?

teenage boy (16-17) vodka into a glass

A reader of Eyes for Lies emailed me an interesting question that I felt might help other people. The reader agreed I could publish this.

Here is what the person wrote:

If one asks another a yes no question and they wait for several minutes before answering with a question, do you think the the respondent is likely to be telling the truth?

I asked, “Over the past couple of days have you been able to maintain your sobriety?”

Several minutes passed ….

He asked, “What have I done to make you think I have been drinking?”

I said, “Its a yes or no question…”

He responded, “No, I have not been drinking.”

His behavior indicated to me that he had snuck a couple of drinks. He was drowsy early, and he was trying not to speak, because I think he knew his speech was slightly affected.

The pause that this reader asks about could support honesty or deception. Here is why: If the person was being good and stayed clean, they may think “Why the hell is he questioning me?!” That would explain the pause and then the question that followed.

Or if he was guilty, he may have thought, “Oh no, I’m busted” and then wondered what clues he gave away…hence the same question.

However, the most important clues in the interaction that were given to us are the other signs mention that suspect was drowsy early and was not trying to speak. Those are the things you need to address and ask him about to get to the truth in this matter.

Thanks to the reader for letting me share this story with you.

Is Jake Pavelka Gay?

8 June  2010 - Beverly Hills, California - Jake Pavelka. Jake Pavelka Hollyscoop  Interview Taping held at Anto Distinctive Shirtmaker Store. Photo  Credit: Byron Purvis/AdMedia
Jake Pavelka Hollyscoop Interview Taping held at Anto Distinctive
Shirtmaker Store. Photo Credit: Byron Purvis/AdMedia

Not according to his ex-girlfriend, Christina Haney, who he lived with Jake for three years and has known him for five. Haney spoke out to Us Magazine and stood by her ex. She also refrained from attacking Vienna.

Haney said to Us Magazine:

As for Pavelka admitting that he withheld sex during his relationship with Girardi, Haney tells Us, “We never had intimacy issues — ever. He really is a great guy who has just had some bad luck lately in choosing women.”

I told you Jake isn’t gay. Just because he was absolutely turned off by Vienna’s behavior, which we all got to witness on The Bachelor, it doesn’t mean he is gay. I think she gives us strong supporting evidence.

I see no indications whatsoever that Jake is gay.

This is a follow-up to the story I wrote in the Chicago Sun-Times on Wednesday.

More Details on Sting Operation with Terri Horman

Here are some details about the sting operation where police attempted to get Terri Horman to talk about her involvement in the murder-for-hire plot to kill Kaine Horman. Terri Horman allegedly approached a landscaper to kill her husband. Now her husband Kaine has been led to believe she is also involved in the disappearance of their son Kaine.

Do you believe body language alone can reveal a lie? Read my thoughts here.

Suspicions Mount Against Thomas Bögerl

The kidnapping and murder of Maria Bögerl has cause quite a stir in her German community outside of Hamburg. Suspicions and rumors are rampant with fingers being pointed toward Thomas Bögerl, banker husband of Maria. The stories grow stronger every day in spite of attempts by police to quell them.

The quieter the police are, the wilder and more insistent the rumors and speculations become. There are rampant stories, with people saying that Thomas is already being held in the jail.

Markus Ott, Heidenheimer police spokesman, has repeatedly denied these rumors. He has maintained that there is no evidence to incriminate Thomas Bögerl. He calls the stories ridiculous.

Bögerl received a call at his bank in which the caller informed him that his wife had been kidnapped. The kidnapper made threats to kill Maria if all of his demands weren’t met. The kidnapper told Thomas to meet him at a certain location, and he gave him the time and amount of ransom that would be required to save his wife’s life.

With no time to spare, Thomas attempted to gather the money from his bank. He rushed it to the designated drop off spot, however, he couldn’t meet the deadline and he was a little late. The money was never picked up.

Maria’s body was found three weeks later; she had died from stab wounds. She had been left in a field near her home covered with some branches. The area she was found in had been extensively searched by police earlier. Many do not understand how it could have been missed. This has caused doubt that the body was left there originally. This has set off even more suspicion.

There are more stories that Maria was killed two days before her reported kidnapping. This story appears to be false, because almost 20 people said they saw her the night before her disappearance. There has been no official time of death established, though, and that would be crucial in this case, because Thomas claims to have phoned his wife on the day of her kidnapping. There are many unanswered questions concerning this tragic death, with no answers being given. This leads to even wilder stories.

Eyes for Lies spotted this story because of the lack of apparent grief visible on the husband’s face. There was a marked difference in the children’s expressions in comparison to those of their father’s. Even though there could not be a determination of his guilt from this video, it raised some questions and so we are all interested in following this story as it develops.

Do you think there are any valid reasons for the people of Heidenheimer to speculate about the guilt of Mr. Bögerl?

Kaine Horman Suspects His Wife, Terri


King5.com Court documents: Kyron Horman’s father suspects stepmom

According to the restraining order filed by Kaine Horman, he believes that Terri Horman was involved was in Kyron Horman’s disappearance.

Read the Restraining Order.

Click here to read my initial thoughts of Terri Horman’s body language during her first presser.