Patrick Swayze

Did you see the moving interview that Patrick Swayze did with Barbara Walters this week? It was painful to watch, and inspiring all at the same time. Swayze is facing his cancer demons head on, yet not willing to give in and relent to them. He is waging a war against a very lethal disease until, he says, he feels the battle is no longer worth fighting.

What I found so powerful in this interview with him and his wife were their emotions, body language and facial expressions. Each movement Swayze and his wife make sends a message. Each movement, each expression, because their emotions are so intense, tells you what is coming before the words are spoken. You see their thoughts on their face before they say a thing. You see and feel a deep anger, and fear. You see and feel courage, happiness, and love. You also see a tension in Swayze that is undeniable. It’s gut-wrenching because it is so real and so raw.

This is one interview where you can really work at understanding two true and honest souls. In this video, they are an excellent pair to study the intricacies of human behavior. Facing mortality, both of these people are trying to accept what is, and do the best they can in an admittedly horrible situation. They go from hope and expectations to accepting the reality of what the future will bring. They wince at the thoughts as they come to mind. Who wouldn’t in a time like this? It’s a balance I don’t think anyone can fully understand and appreciate until they themselves stand on that pronounced yet teetering ground of life versus death — yet through their emotions and expressions, they give us a window into their world and an inkling of what it must be like.

I wish Patrick Swayze and his family peace in this difficult time, the strength and courage to move forward. I want to thank him, too, for standing up and saying what is on his mind, and sharing with everyone his true and honest thoughts. It takes guts and a stable emotional state to level in a time of your life when you are dying.

Smiling Makes You Feel Good

Here is an article about the work of Dr. Paul Ekman: You Feel the Way you Look

Dr. Paul Ekman noticed when he did his research on facial muscles and he tried to replicate emotions in other people, he started to feel them, himself. If, for instance, he frowned for a period, he began to feel down.

Explore this. It’s amazing. Make an angry face. Keep in there a couple of minutes. Do you feel anything? Does your heart rate go up? Do you feel angry?

Next time you don’t know what someone is feeling and they make a funny facial expression, try to replicate it. It may give you some insight into how someone else is feeling.

I must say since I read this, I find myself doing gestures, making faces and general trying to physically put myself into other people’s bodies, and the information is often quite revealing. At a minimum, it gives me feedback if I am thinking in the right direction or not.

You can read more in Dr. Paul Ekman’s book “Emotions Revealed”.

“We All Look the Same When We Lie”

I love this promo, but it’s not my favorite. I’m saving that one for last!

* Quote above from the video (Fox).

Microexpression Poll

Answer: From my experience (remember I am a natural and not a scientist), the answer is no. Most of you got that right! To read about microexpressions from a scientist, read the work of Dr. Paul Ekman.

This past Christmas holiday, I saw my husband reveal two concealed emotions. It wasn’t that he was talking in contradiction to what he was saying, he just wasn’t expressing the “depth” of his emotions verbally. One time his lip sneered upwards (contempt) and another time his nostrils flared (anger). In each instance when I saw the concealed emotion, I was a bit surprised, and I asked him if that was how he was feeling, and he said yes. I also asked him if he knew he made these microexpressions, and both times he said no. Fascinating stuff, isn’t it?! I can never get enough of this stuff.

BTW, my husband I are very happy together. The contempt came at me while we were playing a game.

Behind the Scenes Video of ‘Lie to Me’

I’d be fibbing if I told you I wasn’t looking forward to the new show on FOX coming out this month called Lie to Me. I am really excited for the concepts and work of Dr. Paul Ekman and his colleague Dr. Maureen O’Sullivan to finally get mainstream media attention so that the average person understands what human lie detection is all about.

So many times when I’ve shared my biggest passion in life with people that I have a talent to spot deception (that was studied by Ekman/O’Sullivan), I get a response of “Oh my sister is in to psychic stuff, too.” You don’t know how exasperating that is! I’m not into psychic stuff, and find that comment annoying because it shows a total lack of understanding of the concepts I just spoke about. But of course, with anything new, it takes time for new knowledge to be understood and respected.

I have no doubt in 100 years this science will be vital to all societies who seek justice and truth, but at this time, we are on the infant stages of recognizing this as a science. So I am hoping this show is a whopping success because it will help people open their mind to a new concept — a concept I am very passionate about, a topic I have put my heart and soul into for 4 years.

Are you planning on watching the show?