The Ultimate Betrayal Unraveled

Earlier this week, I wrote a post titled The Ultimate Betrayal? If you aren’t familiar with this story, click on the link above to catch up.

Anne Darwin has now confessed that her presumed-to-be dead husband, John, was actually living in her home for the past several years.

She further identified that John talked to her about faking his death before he did it as a way to solve financial problems.

Read moreI find it amazing the lengths people will go through when money is at stake. Money—the lack of it or the desire to have it—can make people do crazy things.

Did you know faking one’s death is known as pseudocide?

As the video above questions, John Darwin has yet to say why he chose to come back from the dead.

News also surfaced yesterday that Rick Mims sold his story about Drew Peterson to the National Enquirer. Rick says that he needs the money to pay his cell phone bills that were upwards of four-hundred dollars. The rest, says Mims, will be donated to a fund in Stacy Peterson’s name. I did not see Mims say this. I’ve only heard what he said through a second source.

Religion, Politics and Emotion

Many readers ask me to discuss political figures, people of faith, and yes, sometimes, even psychics, and identify the truth-tellers among them. And for those of you who have asked, you know it is something I don’t do.

Why is that, you wonder?

Politics and religion are emotionally based beliefs, as are beliefs in psychics.

In emotional situations, people tend to see only what they want to see. When the truth presents itself and it is contrary to a belief system, people will try to find justifications to explain why the “truth” isn’t the truth. They will say there is a misunderstanding, that what you stated isn’t what that person meant, that you are reading too much into it, that you are seeing it incorrectly. Many times insults start to fly when an agreement isn’t reached.

I’ve learned this the hard way, thank you very much!

So instead of helping people see the truth, I suspect most often, I will simply serve as (a) a source to confirm one’s own belief, or (b) a source of frustration, and hence, potentially the target of peoples’ emotions when I don’t agree with them.

Forgive me, but I see no justification for doing that.

I am almost certain that everyone reading this already holds a strong opinion on each of these subjects, and my pointing out truth-tellers will have little to no effect on those beliefs.

If you believe in God or a god, are strongly affiliated with one political party over another, or want to trust a psychic, then that is good enough for me!

Joran Van der Sloot Released Again

News just came out that Joran Van der Sloot has been ordered released from jail, again.

This case seems to be going in circles, endlessly.

“Prosecutors have said they will announce by the end of the year whether they will try the suspects in the case.” (CNN)

I guess we just have to wait and see.

Read what I wrote about Joran Van der Sloot back in February 2006 here.

The Ultimate Betrayal?

There is an interesting story coming out of the U.K. this morning.

Reports by the Associated Press are saying that in March 2002, a man, John Darwin, went out canoeing and never returned. His canoe washed up on shore wrecked. Sometime thereafter, he was declared dead—I suspect due to lack of a body—presumed to be drowned at sea. He left behind a wife, Anne, and two sons.

But in a strange twist today, news has broken that John Darwin is alive. He claims that he has amnesia, but the story gets even more bizarre: his wife has been found in photos with him taken last year at a holiday resort in Panama. That kind of kills his amnesia claim, if you ask me.

Read moreThe Darwins’ two sons, Anthony and Mark, however, are in shock. They believed their dad was dead this whole time, and they have released a media statement in the aftermath of all of this. Having found out that their mom was in contact with their dad, and that she had knowledge that he was, in fact, alive must be the ultimate betrayal by a parent. In the end, both parents ultimately betrayed their sons.

I can’t imagine the shock Anthony and Mark are feeling at this time, and how their whole paradigm has changed.

Anne Darwin has some serious explaining to do, as does her husband, John. I’ll be interested to hear how this all unravels. It doesn’t look good for the Darwin sons, that’s for sure.

* Nothing in the son’s statement set off a red flag but, of course, that doesn’t mean anything conclusive.

Rick Mims: A Friend of Drew Peterson

If there is anyone I would rather not be at this moment, it would be Rick Mims, not because he is a bad guy, but because Mims is in a difficult place right now. He befriended a man, and held that friendship for 27 years, only for things to unravel in horrific circumstances.

It’s the stuff of nightmares—something none of us ever want to experience.

While we can’t say that Peterson did anything conclusively, we all know the evidence is stacking up in the corner opposing Peterson. I’ve stated I don’t trust him; furthermore, there is simply too much coming out in the news for reasonable people to support Peterson.

Now imagine being Peterson’s friend—his best friend. Imagine how you would feel.

Read more You’d likely have a lot of self-doubt about how you could have been so blind, how you could have missed all the clues, not added up the pieces, trusted someone who ultimately may be one of the most untrustworthy of people—who is suspected of killing two people.

If the unthinkable becomes reality—that Peterson did have his hands in the foul play of both of his wives—for Mims to cope with the fact that he was friends with a killer— a serial killer—may be overwhelming.

Rick will likely doubt his ability to trust others, and may feel unsafe for a while. He will wonder how he could have missed the signs. He will wonder how come he was so blind to what was before him—so close—and yet unseen. It could be devastating, yet Mims may find the strength in realizing that people like Peterson aren’t on every corner—thankfully.

Furthermore, we must also realize, as should Mims, that Peterson may have treated him quite well. People who are disturbed and who do commit serious crimes often have people in an inner circle who they respect and treat well—and keep the truth hidden away from—and as long as these inner-circle people don’t violate them, they are safe. Perhaps Mims is one of these people who Peterson respected?

Then again, Peterson seemed to have a flair for controlling women—so Mims may have never been or become a threat—so should he have been any wiser? He wasn’t the target of Peterson’s aggression.

Sure, Savio’s death was odd and may have raised red flags, but if you knew Peterson all these years and put your trust into him, it would be hard for you to believe that your friend was capable of committing such an unspeakable crime, if it, in fact, occurred. I think most of us would naturally go into a state of denial—especially when the police closed the case.

Who wants to admit and accept that we befriended a potential murderer? Anyone?

Most of us can accept that our friend has relationship issues, but there is a huge jump to being a potential murderer—a serial murderer.

That jump gives me the chills.

None of us have any way of knowing when, why, or what motivates someone to cross the threshold and take someone else’s life. We all have the potential to kill, but thankfully most of us never do it.

I personally look for people who lack the ability to empathize; and that lack of empathy is a red flag for me, but some killers can swoon the best of us over into being believers, and I take no confidence that I am any different than anyone else.

I don’t think less of Rick for being a friend of Drew Peterson should the worst circumstances materialize. Instead, I actually respect him all the more, because he put faith in his friend, he believed in him and he stood by him through it all until the alarm bells became too loud to ignore. Mims didn’t give in early to media pressure. Mims did what a good friend should do, and he still is doing what a good human being should do. He still isn’t talking badly about Drew, yet he is supporting the search for Stacy.

Rick Mims is an admirable human being caught in the worst of circumstances right now, and while I am sure Mims isn’t a perfect human being, he is handling this stressful situation amazingly well and with grace.

In all of this darkness, there is light.