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For those of you who know me, and have read through my blog, you are probably familiar with what I call paralleling. It’s something I do, that is innate, that helps me spot deception and relate to others at lightening speed.

Essentially, when I hear the voice of a stranger, see the face of a stranger or watch a stranger interact with their surroundings, many times a trigger is fired in my brain that instantly recollects someone I’ve known in the past who shares a similarity to this stranger.

A person that I’ve known in the past appears in my minds-eye without thought, and I instantly know there is a similarity between the two. Sometimes the similarities are striking and elaborate, other times the two only share a flicker of commonality in one or two areas — but there is no doubt a commonality in personalities.

It is paralleling that allows me to accurately assess a stranger based on a person I’ve known in my past.

Read moreParalleling the Voice of Rachel Ray

Right now on the radio in my town, there is a woman who has Rachel Ray’s voice. Every time I hear this radio announcer, I see Rachel Ray talking in my mind. This parallel connection either hints at the fact that they may have grown up within the same area of New York — hence I notice the similar voice inflections — or they share similar personality traits.

From what I know about Rachel and this radio announcer, I can definitely say they share the similarities of being outgoing, independent strong women who know what they want and what they like. Neither are shy or afraid to speak their mind. Both both have an interest in the media! If I were to sit down and write up the traits of Rachel Ray and present them to this radio announcer, I bet there would be more than a few coincidental similarities.

The Unknown Science

What paralleling tells me is that facial features, voice and behaviors all must somehow relate to personalities, and behaviors — or this unknown science of mine wouldn’t work.

Could a jaw line that is shared by my husband’s grandma and Warren Buffet indicate that one doesn’t hold grudges and is accepting of life? Warren Buffets jawline triggered a parallel connection to my husband’s grandma’s jawline, and instantly, when it did, I knew the two were similar in their approach to life. Yes, it is weird. I know. It’s wacky science, but who knows, maybe in 100 years it it won’t be. Facial features and their ratios may signify way more than we realize now. Then again, it could be something entirely different that makes paralleling effective. I don’t have answers, only questions.

Paralleling in Medicine?

One reader to my blog last Spring suggested that paralleling personalities could lead to a new paradigm in medicine. What if doctors paralleled people and used this information to treat their patients?

In essence, what if people who shared similar looks, or behaved similarily turned out to share a the same predisposition for certain diseases? What if the alignment ratio of your eyes to your nose meant you were predisposed to getting Alzheimers, heart disease and cancer of the lungs?

How we look, and sound – and hence behave — may very well be connected to more than just surface elements. Isn’t that a weird thought?

Applying that to my paralleling, could the alignment and ratio of facial features such as eyes and nose indicate one is arrogant, self-serving, insecure and predisposed to lying? Could the pitch of your voice tells us how outgoing and social you are? Could the shape and size of one’s lips tell us about how generous you are?

These are certainly interesting questions for which I have no answers. I just know paralleling has something behind it and it needs to be studied.

Photo link from the Chicago-SunTimes

The Stebic-Peterson Connection

When news broke yesterday that Craig Stebic said he could relate to Drew Peterson and the Chicago Sun-Times displayed a photo of the two men side-by-side (above), it was almost eerie. It stopped me dead in my tracks.

It was a parallel experience, set off not by my brain, but by the photos of the two men side-by-side.

Look at these two men. From the photo shared by the Sun-Times, you might mistake these two for the same person. While I know they don’t look exactly alike due to their age difference — the two share strikingly similar features. It’s as if they are brothers, isn’t it?

Look at how these men have behaved in the cases of their missing wives. Look at the stories told by their family members. The similarities are more than just coincidence.

I don’t know either of them well enough for my ability of paralleling to kick in, but I can apply the theory. What one does, the other might likely do as well simply based on the similarity of their looks combined with the similarity of what little we know of their actions.

We could speculate that they are both manipulative, controlling men who were stubborn, arrogant and yet at the heart, very insecure. We could speculate both men in their marriage attempted to wear the pants, be the disciplinarian in the family and that both had one heck of an ego. Both men berated their wives, were likely abusive, and didn’t respect anyone else (deep down inside) yet both demanded respect from everyone to the point they likely alienated people.

We could also speculate that these two men were likely suspicious of people and weren’t able to trust others.

If you introduced these two, I suspect they would either love or hate each other — because they would be so similar. And in a way, Craig Stebic has reached out to Drew Peterson because I suspect he sees it, too. I think he sees himself in Peterson much more deeply than the fact both have missing wives and have been hounded by the media.

The police would be wise to keep close tabs on both of these men. These two might really want to meet each other, or at minimum talk though they both might be afraid of the other because they each know what the other is capable of.

I suspect both men thought the same way about a lot more than just their wives. The Stebic and Peterson families could benefit from getting to know each other — because what one family knows about one might apply to the other.

I just hope these men both didn’t do the exact same thing to their wives. I hope they didn’t both find the ultimate hiding place for a corpse.

While I don’t understand the intricacies of paralleling, and how I do it let alone how it works, I am very curious to look more closely at it. There is more to paralleling than meets the eye. I know that for sure.