Charles Bothuell’s Parents Charged with Torture

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Do you remember the case of Charles Bothuell, Jr, 13, who was reported missing by his dad and step-mom last June? Charles Bothuell, Sr., was on TV with Nancy Grace when she reported they found his son on LIVE TV two weeks later. You can see the footage above.

When this segment aired, I wrote saying I didn’t believe Charles Bothuell, Sr., at all when he reacted as Nancy Grace told him. He knew what happened to his boy without question. There were tell-tale signs if you understand human behavior and body language.

Last Friday Charles Bothuell Jr.’s dad and step-mom were arrested, and charged with torture and child abuse of their son. It’s a first for Wayne county to charge someone of torture when the person is still alive.

Both parents can face a maximum sentence of life in prison.

It’s always good news when the truth is prevails!  These two needs to be held accountable for what they did to little Charles. He looks like a fine young man!

Sources HNLTV and The Detroit News

Tyler Deaton on 48 Hours

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Did you catch 48 Hours this weekend? It’s a mystery as to what actually happened to Bethany Deaton. Did she commit suicide or was she murdered?

Bethany was found in her van with a bag over her head. She had inhaled the bag into her mouth, according to reports, and died with her eyes open, which according to investigators, was unusual.

Bethany was married to Tyler Deaton, and their relationship involved a lot of twists and turns with stories of Tyler running a cult to ultimately identifying himself as gay. He claims to have never consummated his marriage to Bethany, and yet with these weird circumstances calls himself “charismatic” oddly.

One thing is clear:  Tyler was able to get people to follow him through the guise of religion and he got people to do what he wanted. I am not sure “charismatic” is the term for that, but it seems to be Tyler’s word.

Tyler demonstrates in his interview with 48 Hours that he is very comfortable bending the truth when it suits him.

“You manipulated several men into having sex with you. Is that right?”  Troy Roberts, on 48 Hours, asked Deaton.

“[Laughs] No. That’s not correct,” Tyler replied.

“Well, correct me,” said Troy Roberts.

“I’ve never had sex with anybody,” said Tyler.

And yet Boze Herrington, one of his cult followers, said, “He told us that he had been … practicing for his honeymoon with another guy but not in a sexual, just a physical way.”

You can clearly see the manipulation here.

He later admitted to having oral sex with a guy, but not “sex”.  Yeah, right.

So what happened to Bethany?

I do not believe that Bethany committed suicide.

And I can say this:  I do not trust Tyler one iota. His reactions to what happened to Bethany make absolutely no sense, if he is uninvolved as he wants us to believe. What level of involvement he has, I would need to see more interviews.

I am happy to hear the police are continuing to investigate this case.

Tammy Meyers Road Rage Incident

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I am sure most of you have heard about the Las Vegas road rage incident where 44-year-old mom, Tammy Meyers, was gunned down, critically injured and was taken off of life support on Valentine’s Day. It’s a tragic story.

A reader who follows my blog saw this clip of the incident a couple of days ago, and wrote me immediately asking me to review it.

There is something in here that is suggestive there is a back-story going on.

Do you hear it?

It makes me really curious to hear both sides of the story before making a judgement on who fired first, though absolutely no one deserved to die. This is a very tragic example of how emotions can lead you to make a bad decision (on both sides of this tragedy).

I will share my thoughts in the comment section in the coming days.

Corey Batey Interview on Dr. Phil

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If the video doesn’t load above, here is a link. Click on “Dr. Phil asks Cory about the victim — and the derogatory name he used to describe her.”

On Monday of last week, Dr. Phil interviewed Corey Batey, one of the men found guilty of raping an unconscious woman at Vanderbilt University in June of 2013.

I didn’t believe 90% of what Batey said. I don’t see him express an ounce of regret for the victim either. Instead, I see a man who wants to convince people he isn’t this person who did this crime.

Does he feel bad for the victim? No.

Listen to his response when Dr. Phil asks Batey if he looked at that young woman when they played the videos of her unconscious in court. Batey doesn’t show any sorrow or sadness for the victim. He instead turns it all around and talks about himself again. He says, “I wish she could really know the type of person I am.” He continues, “I hate that she had to see me in that light.”

I find it utterly disturbing!

I didn’t see one redeeming quality in Batey the entire interview. I didn’t believe him when he claimed he couldn’t remember anything either. It’s total nonsense!

The only time Batey truly felt emotions was at the end of the interview when it was all about him and his fate. That’s when Batey’s true emotions are revealed. He seems to only feel for himself.

What Does Your Profile Picture Say About You?

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(First published on LinkedIn February 13, 2015)

One of the key elements of a LinkedIn profile is a photograph. Photographs can be very revealing about a person. They can reveal if a person is happy, approachable, confident and professional. Or they can do the opposite. They can convey negative emotions, a threatening pose and show an unprofessional side. I suggest you chose your photo wisely because your photo does matter.

When people join LinkedIn, you assume they want to make positive connections, so I am always stunned when I see a professionally accomplished person putting up a photo of themselves that shows a negative, threatening, or unprofessional image. I can’t help but think they don’t realize the messages they are sending.

No one wants to reach out to a grumpy face, or a face that is looking down upon you (contemptuous). Or worse, a face that looks threatening or ominous. People will turn away.

So to aid people, here are my guidelines on how to submit a photo with a facial expression that will communicate a positive vibe for you:

  1. Make sure your picture shows you relaxed and comfortable
  2. If you are happy with yourself smiling, post a photo of you truly feeling happy or positive. This is the best profile picture you can post!
  3. If you don’t like to smile or its not natural for you (that’s okay!), post a neutral expression, but make sure there are no negative undertones in the photo
  4. Avoid negative undertones in a photo:
    (a) Looking down your nose
    (b) Forehead back, chin forward

    1. (“a” and “b” above both denote arrogance)

    (c) Tension in your face

    1. i. Lines in your forehead
    2. ii. Tense or tight lips
    3. iii. Squinting or glaring eyes
    4. iv. Eyebrows pulled down
      1. (ii-iv are suggestive of anger)

    (d) Frowning or down turned lips
    (e) Drooping eyes, heavy eyelids or heavy face

    1. (d) and (e) are signs of sadness, can suggest lack of motivation

    (f) Upper lip pulled upwards without a smile
    (g) Nose wrinkled and pulled upwards

    1. (f) and (g) are signs of disgust

None of these elements in number four above are going to signal positive traits about you. But by far the worst offenders I see are those who post pictures of themselves making the contempt expression, which is a half-smile. A contempt expression is a universal expression identified by scientists that is expressed by all people. So if you are human and feel contempt, you will make this expression regardless of where you live on the planet, what your race or ethnicity is, what language you speak, etc.

And while we all make contempt expressions–it’s a fact of life–I do not recommend putting a photo of yourself in your profile expressing this emotion. It is a very negative emotion which can signal a looking-down-upon-others attitude, an attitude of superiority as in “I’m better than you”, or in a low level situation a complete disbelief and disregard for what a person is hearing or seeing.

Here is an example of a contempt expression for you.

contempt

And here is a link to another one.

If you are going to take the time to publish a profile of yourself on anywhere on the web, put your best face forward!