Are you emotionally intelligent?

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adriantarsukoff / Pixabay

There is so much information on the Internet today, you probably feel like I do: it’s information overload. And if you are a specialist in one area or another, you see there is a lot of misinformation out there as well. It’s rampant and staggering!

I specifically see a lot of inaccurate information about understanding human behavior, spotting deception and emotional intelligence.  So many people are trying to sell you ways to be emotionally more intelligent, and most of it is nonsense.

But I did see this article today and I thought it was very well written:

15 signs that you’re emotionally intelligent, even if it doesn’t feel like it

Give it a read.I agree these are signs of an EI person! Of course there is more, but if you tick these off–it’s a great sign!


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Shopping for a new car?

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jaygeorge / Pixabay

I’ve been shopping for a new car lately, and it seems every time I enter into a dealer, the approach on how to get a good deal on a car changes. Even the sales techniques change.

This time, I went to Hyundai dealers and one thing was funny: They all had the same approach. They would greet me at the door, and then ask me to sit.  Next they’d want information such as my name, address, etc. and they’d take that information down.

It’s a great sales approach, not because they get your information, or attend to you, the customer.

They also asked me to sit when I finished test driving the vehicle as they went to get their manager.

The salesman are employing a technique here, which I suspect is very intentionally, and a good salesman will immediately have knowledge about you in that short interaction.  And that information isn’t from any information you give to them.

What information do you reveal?

Check back in a few days when I reveal the answer.

Chase’s Expression

chase surprise

Yesterday I asked viewers who caught Chase’s microexpression on the Bachelorette Monday night. And only one viewer identified it after many people responded.

The expression is above, and the information revealed (that Chase is surprised) allows us to match Chase’s words to his facial expression and know if he is truthful.

Was Chase truthful to Jojo in this interaction?

Personality-Based Emotional Intelligence Test

Personality split

I have been spending time trying to understand more information about emotional intelligence, and how it combines with my ability to spot deception. Having read about emotional intelligence lately, I am finding the definitions fall short in describing the depth of my “tool set”, for a lack of a better term. While I do understand emotions extremely well, I believe there is more to reading people than just emotions. Emotions, to me, are a subset of my skills, as is deception detection. It’s one element, but not the largest element. Does that make sense?

The boarder picture is understanding people and human behavior, and one explanation that I have been exploring lately is personality intelligence. I seem to have templates in my head for understanding people. I feel like I live in a world without strangers.  Maybe its due to pattern-matching of facial features, emotions, and behaviors together?  I am trying to understand it more.

Today in my quest for more information, I took a test online, the Personality-Based Emotional Intelligence Test. When my score popped up, it said I scored higher than 96.2% of people who took the test. That caught my eye. I found the test easy and required little thought. I missed three answers. I wrote the website owner to find out more information about this test and the research behind it (see comments below–people are getting the same score for different answers–uh oh!).

I truly believe who wrote this test gets it! They understand what I am doing and I’d like to learn more about it!  This correlates to the “facial profiling service” I offer.

On the website where the test is given, it says:

This website has been offering a wide selection of psychological tests, mostly personality tests, since late 2011 and has given millions of results since then. It exists to educate the public about various personality tests, their uses and meaning, the various theories of personality and also to collect research data. This website is under continuous development and new tests and information are being added all the time.

This website also exists for the promotion of open source assessments and open data. A number of open source measures of popular psychological constructs have been developed and are made available under a creative commons licence on this website, see the full list. Also, at the end of every test users are asked if their data can be saved and used for research. The (anonymous) data that this yields can be downloaded from the data page. This data has already been used in several academic articles.

How did you score on the test?

Do you have “cognitive” or “affective” empathy?

brain lobes

A team of researchers, led by Robert Eres, from Monash University in Australia, have identified that people have physically different brains depending on the type of empathy they have.

I do not find this surprising at all. I believe that who we are is much more hard-wired than most of us realize.

So the question is: Are you a rational or emotional decision maker?

If you are emotional, you have affective empathy. If you are rational, you are a cognitive empathy.

When I sum up a person in front of me when assessing people, this is one element I look for immediately.  People wear how they make decision on their face.

Why is this important for me?  Because if you are telling me something, I will know how reliable you are by the type of decisions you make (rational or emotional).  Emotions cloud judgement and will affect one’s ability to see things clearly and that matters when getting to the truth!