My Thoughts: Ted Bundy

When I watch the video of Ted Bundy, I am immediately struck at how his game is “on”. Bundy had an arsenal of tools that he used to fool people psychologically, and I am amazed at how many that he employs in the first eleven seconds of this video.

By Bundy’s behaviors, it is clear that he knew he could deceive anyone. Bundy understood human behavior and psychology at levels that far exceed most people, if you want my opinion, intuitively, and he knew how to turn the tables on people in seconds. He was wickedly manipulative.

Read moreWhile we all know that Bundy is guilty here, and we are all creeped out by the man in hindsight, I can assure you at the time when people first watched Bundy talk, he gave people serious doubts by his behaviors and actions. Bundy knew how to make people want to believe him. Add in his good looks and articulate speech, and it is no wonder he managed to get away with so many murders.

Bundy figured out that defensiveness is a sure sign of guilt, and what most people use as a gauge to detect truthfulness. He knew to avoid it at all costs. He also knew that if he appeared confident and self-assured, he’d gain more people’s trust.

Bundy also used distraction. He uses it here with chilling ease. He talks about how he stole a comic book when he was five years old. And even further, he knew that if he admitted to some wrongs, in a time of accusations, that people would think he was truthful and honest. But more than that, Bundy knew if he talked about something where he was guilty, if he displayed any guilty behaviors, people might attribute them back to the benign behavior, instead of the more serious one. After all, Bundy used in his calculations that it’s human nature to reject the people in front of us are capable of horrible things. It’s much easier to accept he stole a comic book and is honest, rather than believe he is lying and guilty of killing people. Most people are Pollyannas.

Bundy used multiple techniques in a matter of mere seconds to lure in his victims. It’s horrifyingly chilling in this video alone. The ease at which Bundy psychologically baits us is simply mind-blowing. In the first eleven seconds of this video, I count five psychological tools that Bundy used to fool people. That’s almost one every two seconds!! It’s no wonder Bundy was so successful at his crime.

When Bundy says, “I am not guilty of the allegations that have been filed against me”, it is fascinating to watch him. He is very articulate. Notice how he keeps his eyes locked on to the interviewer? He used this as a tool, too. Most people believed (and sadly still believe) that eye contact is a sign of honesty. But when Bundy says this, he shows doubt. He bites his lip. His confidence wanes, and if you are savvy, you would see not only this, but that his initial laughter was as a fake as a plastic cake!

Yet, when you stack up his leaks versus his luring techniques, he’s still ahead of the game.

Bundy goes on to say, “I don’t know all of what you are speaking about, Lucky, it’s too broad and I can’t get into it in any detail…” What is fascinating about this is, if he was innocent, what detail would there be to talk about?

Bundy employs psychological trickery, again, when he says, “No man is truly innocent…” and again when he stares intently, without loosing eye contact with the interviewer, when he says, “Nothing like the things you’re referring too.”

I find it chilling the way that Bundy laughs at how he is as likely to die in front of a firing squad as is the interivewer is of dying in a plane crash. Bundy says with an eerie grin, “Let’s hope you don’t.”

Bundy says he did not lie awake thinking about it (the charges against him, I suspect). He says, “Honest to god, not a moment.” I don’t believe him for an instant. Do you see the lip curl at the end? It’s an indication that what he said was a fib (It’s my husband’s classic clue to deception!).

Listen to what Bundy says here:

“I’ve been told the parents of these girls are fairly decent people… I don’t know, and I really feel for them because apparently these people suffered some incredible tragedy in their lives. The loss of a loved one is probably the most extreme kind of loss one could suffer in this life, and I say, I feel as much for them as anybody can.”

Bundy is trying to get people to accept him as compassionate and caring, but when you look at his words, they are very revealing. In his attempt to gain our trust, he actually rambles like a fool here. Bundy, I suspect, subconsciously minimizes what he is saying and doesn’t even realize it. Words can be so telling.

Notice how Bundy uses the word “apparently”? That word discredits the parents suffering, as if maybe the girls weren’t really murdered, as if he needs proof, and doesn’t believe this is so. Perhaps this was a subconscious form of distancing? It’s notably odd.

Then Bundy postulates that the loss of a loved one is “probably” the most “extreme” kind of loss there is. Why is he hedging with “probably” here, yet using the word extreme? Either he believes it or he doesn’t. These words identify Bundy is inconsistent. His subconscious, I suspect, is leaking out his real feelings.

He also uses the word “some incredible tragedy”. Why the word “some”? It’s as if he is saying “some tragedy”, but not the worst tragedy, isn’t it? Again, his words are minimizing things without him even realizing it. Then if you consider the use of the word “incredible”, one can immediately see he is inconsistent and immediately knows that he is B.S.-ing.

I also find it odd how he says he’s been told the parents of these girls are “fairly decent”? What normal person would even consider putting into question the decency of the parents? Why does he use “fairly” instead of just decent? I don’t think anyone told Bundy, “Hey, you know, these girls parents were fairly decent.” It’s ridiculous. I suspect this was another subconscious slip of the tongue. He wanted to say decent, but just couldn’t do it. I also like how he ends the sentence with, “I don’t know”.

Bundy was rambling in an attempt to gain support, and this last paragraph, if you ask me, backfired on him, but I am not sure if the average person would have picked up on his hedging. Most people don’t see the importance of what I coined “hedge words”, but they are very, very telling.

I certainly wouldn’t want to have met Ted Bundy. He could manipulate many people into believing they were holding an orange when it was really an apple, if you want my opinion.

George Anthony Wants to End Life

This is absolutely the most heart-breaking news (more here) that I have seen this morning. George Anthony reportedly left, and checked into a motel. At some point, he missed a family meeting with their attorney, and sent his family a message that he wanted to end his life. The Orange County police tracked him down via his cell phone pings, and he is currently in the hospital for observation. He says he doesn’t want to live anymore.

Read moreI can only imagine the hell that Cindy and George are going through. The pain is beyond what any of us could ever comprehend. Few of us seem to put ourselves in their shoes to truly try to understand. They have not only one tragedy of inconceivable proportions, but two to deal with. And if they are to accept the realities of what happened, they have to accept that this nightmare came from their own flesh and blood. What does that do to a person’s sense of self-worth? I can only imagine it would bring you to where George found himself. How else could one feel?

I know many people will say that the Anthonys should have reacted differently while they still could. These are people who don’t understand our legal system, and what it is like to know or live with a psychopath. I personally don’t believe psychopaths are created. I believe they are born, and one day, we will understand the defects of the brain that cause these dangerous people to act in the ways that they do. But right now, we are in the dark ages of brain science.

If you’ve never experienced a psychopath, and been forced to deal with their manipulation, control and lies, it’s a world you couldn’t possibly understand. People without a conscience are people with incredible power and influence because they have no boundaries. They will push others to the limits of sanity because it doesn’t cause them any heartbreak to do so. Psychopaths are the ultimate manipulators. They can control the best of us, if we get too close.

My heart goes out to George and Cindy Anthony in these most difficult of times. I do not judge them for their behavior in any form. I feel great pain when I think of the situation they are in and I wish them the strength and courage to move forward, and ultimately peace in knowing the did the best they could with what they knew at the time.
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Fox also reported this:

A former boyfriend, Ricardo Morales, told investigators she had made jokes about giving Caylee baby medicine to put her to sleep, according to MyFOXOrlando.com. But he also said she seemed to have a normal relationship with her daughter.

So next time you hear something as sick as this, what are you going to do?

You can call the police, but if Casey says it is a joke, and the police believe her because she looks harmless, and she doesn’t have any type of record, and the police believe she is not a threat to her daughter, what else can you do? Seriously, what options do you have to stop something so horrific as what happened to Caylee?

I believe I can pick out a psychopath more than the average person, but until you or I can prove they have an intent to harm another person, there is absolutely nothing you or I, or anyone else can do to stop such a tragedy from occurring. It’s the price we pay for our ultimate freedoms as a society.

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