Isabel Celis Parents Plea for her Return

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In another unfortunate twist this week, we see more parents pleading for their child’s safe return, but the problem, again, is we are seeing feigned emotions.

I am troubled by many things in this plea:

  1. Their focus is on themselves–“We just wanted to let you guys know…” “We are cooperating to the fullest extent..”  These are their first thoughts!!
  2. Becky slips and says, “We do not want you to focus…or…we don’t want the focus to be taken off of Isabel.” Is that a subconscious slip of the tongue?
  3. The higher pitch of Sergio’s voice…
  4. The lack of tears when they appear to be crying.
  5. The lack of oblique eyebrows at key times when they attempt to express true sadness.
  6. The lack of urgency to find their daughter. They start the interview by thanking people instead of pleading for people to keep a lookout for their daughter, give her description, etc. Which would be more important to you if your daughter was missing?
  7.  Their complete despair and lack of hope.  

While both of these people are undeniably feeling stress, they are trying to express sadness and fear, but show no sincere expressions to support it.

I also notice how they are fine before they talk, but get “emotional” when they are speaking, but as soon as the camera is off of them again, they go back to being normal.  This is called emotional turbulence and is not a good sign.

Becky also uses self-soothing gestures when she rubs her neck.  While these are not an indicator of deception, why does she have the need to self-sooth when she speaks to the media?

I am also troubled by how these two are extremely clingy.  They act like the need each other desperately.Are they hiding a horrible secret?  Most parents of children who are missing legitimately are not clingy.  They are strong, resolved, hopeful and plead for information to bring their child back.  These two seem troubled internally much more than they are about their missing daughter, if you ask me.

I suspect we will find out these two know more than they are telling us…how sad for Isabel.

Missing Sierra Lamar

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Sierra Lamar went missing on March 16, 2012, from her home in California. She was not seen by any of her friends or on the school bus that morning, but her cell phone was found along the road the following day.  Sierra’s mom, Marlene, has been in the media talking about her daughter’s disappearance, and her emotions and demeanor clearly stand out as inconsistent.

If you watch her in this interview above, she wants us to believe she is sad and worried, but she shows no clear scientific evidence that she is really feeling this way.

I do not believe Sierra’s mom is feeling like she wants us to feel. It’s a notable red flag.

In the interview below with Nancy Grace, Marlene confuses facts and gets very defensive with Nancy Grace when talking about her boyfriend and if he was home the morning Sierra disappeared.  Then she cuts the interview off with a ridiculous line that she had other things she had to do. It’s absolute rubbish!

If finding Sierra was Marlene’s number one priority, she would have stayed on the phone with Nancy Grace, but she didn’t.  It seems her number one priority was taking the questions off of her boyfriend!!  She wanted everyone to believe he was cleared, but as Nancy Grace finds out after Marlene is off the line from the sheriff that no one is cleared.

Why is Marlene so defensive about her boyfriend?  I sure would like to see him speak.  If anyone finds a video of him, please let me know.

I also listened to Marlene recall the last morning she saw her daughter, she couldn’t give us any details of their last encounter. Instead, she recalls the night before.  This is another red flag.

She also is what I would call emotionally turbulent in some interviews. That’s another red flag.

Do I trust Marlene?  I do not.  I believe she knows more than she is telling us.

Conversation with a Builder

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I was talking to a builder in my neighborhood yesterday who approached me when I was taking a walk.  We had a very interesting conversation.  He said he was improving the house he was working on and it would, in turn, improve the value of the houses in the neighborhood.  He promptly handed me his business card.

Since he was friendly and open, I decided to probe him for information. I saw wood boards being put up in a vanilla color, and I asked him if that was the color the house was going to be.

He looked at me and said no.  He didn’t offer any information about what color the house was going to be.  He seemed to be avoiding it, which piqued my interested even more.  He just said, “It’s going to be vinyl siding.”

So I hit him again, “What color will the siding be?”

He looked at me and said, “It will be a beautiful color. The house will look really nice.”

I though what is up with this guy!  So, I asked him again.

He evaded me again! He said, “It will be a neutral shade.”

That involves a lot of colors, I thought!

I asked again, “What color?  Tan, brown, coffee ice cream?”

He looked at me and said, “It will be a swirl.”

I was dumbfounded at this point.  Swirled vinyl siding?  I kept envisioning little hurricanes in brown and tan all over the house.  That would kill property values, if you ask me–if such a horrible product existed!

He certainly got me to stop asking questions because I thought maybe there is some new product I have never heard about. I wanted to go home and read about it to see if I was missing something.

What I’ve found it there may be a swirl pattern to the siding, but not in the color, so the builder completely evaded me!  When I think about it, I suspect he will be getting whatever he finds on sale and he didn’t want to commit to a color to me in case I shared it with the homeowner. The homeowner might be asking more questions that he doesn’t want.  He is trying to do something underhanded!!

I mean if the homeowner hadn’t picked the color, he certainly would have volunteered that information by saying he didn’t know just yet.  So he is likely telling them he’ll get this great new shade–they just have to wait until he can get a sample.  Yeah, that great new shade will be whatever shade is cheapest for him when he needs it!!

I certainly smell a rat!

If this builder thought he was selling his services, he swiftly close the door in his own face!

Are moms good at spotting lies?

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If you didn’t see Dateline on Sunday night, and you are a parent of a teenager, I highly recommend it. If there is one group of people who I meet who consistently tell me they are good at spotting lies, its moms. They watch their children lie and feel confidentially they can call it out, but in the presence of many, I can tell you they don’t see the clues as often as they think they do, and often misjudge the situation.

Here is an interesting article from Psychology Today: Is Your Teen Trustworthy? Can you Tell?

Quoted from the article:

  • 57% of the time mothers believed that adolescents were telling the truth, teens really were
  • 33% of the time mothers believed adolescents were lying, teens said they were telling the truth

What do you think? Do you trust your teenager not to get in a car with a drunk driver? 

George Zimmerman and His Apology

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George Zimmerman says in this video as he appears to be looking at his attorney that he is sorry that Martins lost their son.  You quickly realize Zimmerman is not sorry that he killed Trayvon, only that the Martin’s lost his son.

There is a huge difference between the two, and it makes Zimmerman’s apology fall short, if you ask me.

Zimmerman appears to have planned to say this statement, and rehearsed it with his attorney. Hence that is why he looks at his attorney from what I can see when he begins the statement and when he ends it.

This was not the appropriate time for this apology nor was it done with any sincerity.  It was clearly for image control than anything, if you ask me, and it came across exactly in that manner, as it was intended.

We can certainly conclude that Zimmerman is not remorseful about killing Martin — neither his words nor his emotions support this.

George shows notable inconsistencies when he is asked by the prosecuting attorney if he ever made an apologetic statement after the incident to police. He firmly says, “No, sir.”

Yet within a second or two, he realizes what he said and he changes his answer.  He says, “I don’t remember what I said…I believe I said that.”  Then Zimmerman tries to convince us he did say it, but he doesn’t remember much.  He continues, “In one of the statements, I believe I said I was sorry.”  Yet when questioned who was present when he spoke, he can’t confirm who it was.

Do I believe George?  I do not.

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