“Like she’s ordering a cheese sandwich”

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Dalia Dippolito hired a hit man to kill her husband. What she didn’t know was this hit man was an undercover cop. The story is fascinating because we get to see a suspected psychopath do her dirty work. The police have recently released a video of Dalia talking to the uncover cop, asking him to kill her husband. It’s bone chilling. You can read more here and see another video as well.

Read moreMike, her to-be-killed husband says when he watches her on tape, “It’s like she is ordering a cheese sandwich asking someone to kill me. It’s unbelievable.”

I’ve pointed out countless times that killers often are lacking the appropriate emotions and when they discuss topics that should elicit a notable emotional response, they often come across as if it is just another typical day, in essence, totally flat. A lack of emotions is equally as important as inappropriate emotions, it is just so many people discount it.

Oprah once said, “When people tell you who they are, believe them.” Dalia doesn’t hesitate to tell this undercover cop who she is. She says, “I’m a lot tougher than what I look. I know you are thinking, ‘What a cute little girl, or whatever. You know, but I’m not.'”

How many times has someone said to you, “I’m not half as nice as you think I am” and you just discount it? Many people often think people are hard on themselves, so when they say something negative like this, they immediately respond back, “Oh no, you aren’t like that at all.” More often than not, when someone puts themselves down in a negative light like this, we actually sympathize and empathize with them. We feel sorry for them, which is counterintuitive.

Denial is a very dangerous thing. When someone says something negative about themselves, I take it as gospel. I believe them. This is very important advice. It can save you from heartache, or much worse. Let’s put it this way, I would never call myself something I don’t think I am. Would you?

One last thing, Michael Dippolito met Dalia when she was working as an escort. He should have always calculated in that Dalia would do anything for money, or she likely wouldn’t have worked in the shadowy business of escorts. Had he done that from day one, he would have likely been suspicious of her and acted a lot sooner, which could have saved him from a lot of heartache.

Just food for thought.

Actors and Acting

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A reader asked me:

I was wondering if you go to the movies? If so, do you spot the ‘lies’ as actors are being someone they are not? I ask because I read that truth wizards and people like Dr Elkman turn the sound off of their TV and try to construct the story just by watching people’s expressions – does this relate only to ‘real’ TV like news stories/interviews or do they do this for entertainment shows like Friends as well? If actors have different skill levels as I suspect, who do you find most convincing in their roles?

I actually do not go to the movies nor do I rent them. Fictional TV shows don’t interest me much. It isn’t because I feel the actors are lying. It’s simply that they miss the mark and can’t keep me in the moment, so I end up getting bored. Other times, the acting is so bad that it feels so phony, I can’t even concentrate on the storyline.

Read moreIt’s rare when an actor can pull off an emotional scene and make it believable. Or if one actor manages, often times another will blow it for me. I think back to one of the last movies I saw, the Pursuit of Happiness, with Will Smith in the bathroom on the floor with his son when he tries to get all emotional, and he missed the mark before he pulled of the scene. It throws me out of the moment and I lose my emotional investment in the film. I must say overall, though, Will Smith did good in that movie for the most part.

I am not one who enjoys turning off the sound. I don’t relate to that so I can’t answer those questions.

Since I watch very little fictional TV, I don’t know a whole lot about actors, but ones that come to mind that I have enjoyed in the past are Helen Hunt, Dustin Hoffman, Tim Allen, Ray Romano, and Meryl Streep. A strange mix, I know!

Several years ago, my husband was watching Everybody Loves Raymond and I sat down, waiting to turn the channel, when I actually started laughing at the current episode. My husband was shocked because he knows sitcoms and me don’t get along. I don’t know if it was Ray’s acting, or the character plot that I enjoyed, but I got swept in and enjoyed that show. I liked the interaction between Ray and his wife a lot. It was plausible and realistic.

I am sure you guessed it, I can’t stand slap stick comedy or science fiction. I go absolutely nuts! I did strangely enjoy Scrat in Ice Age. His emotional responses were so on par, it was fabulous. I loved that movie!!! I didn’t go see it, my husband was watching it when I walked in the room and he refused to change the channel. I could watch Scrat and his friends for hours and hours and hours and hours. Those animators deserve the biggest award for their work. It was phenomenal!!

Reading Faces: Article

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Hub lab writing the book on face-reading,” from the Boston Globe.

Nelson said that his research has revealed that by adulthood, people’s abilities to read faces are fairly established and they can only learn more through deliberate learning, much like being taught a foreign language.

“By adulthood, the window is not permanently closed, but with age, it’s increasingly difficult to learn new abilities,’’ said Nelson, 56, a high-energy researcher who travels frequently to talk about his work.

What do you think?

Thanks to my Boston reader for this article!

Poll: You Decide Curtis Vance

I wrote about Curtis Vance back in January when he was arrested. He was charged and sentenced to life in prison last week for murdering Anne Pressly.

Blog Search Option

I was wondering if you can help me. The blogger search box above doesn’t seem to be searching through my blog anymore. It comes up blank most of the time and I don’t know why. With over 1,000 posts now, I need a good search option. Without it, people can find my posts on topics and I get many emails a day asking me if I have reviewed this or that case.

Does anyone know of a good widget we can use? While blogger has one, it is for their new template and I am currently using their old, so it won’t work for me.

Just thought I would ask for help. Thanks in advance!