Bachelorette contender Tino Franco’s true desire

If you watched the Bachelorette last night, there was a very revealing moment on the show when Rachel revealed to Tino that he was the only one left.  Did you catch it?

I was trying to find a video clip of that moment and can’t seem to locate one online. If you find one, please do share a link!

If you watched that reveal moment between Rachel and Tino, you may have had a niggle that something wasn’t right.

The internet is a buzz with the fact that Tino’s face was flat–utterly emotionless.  They are 100% correct in that assessment.  It stood out.

But if you were paying close attention, you would have caught Tino’s smile utterly dropping off his face!

It was most pronounced if you watched the right side of his face. It slipped off!! He was NOT happy to hear he was the last one standing.

How gutting that was to watch!

I imagined seeing that if I were Rachel. Rachel didn’t seem to register it, sadly.

Tino seemed to enjoy Rachel and was truly happy around her many times as seen in the photo above. That was genuine.

But it appears, from that slip of the smile, Tino actually wanted to win the contest, rather than win Rachel and propose!

Ouch!!

So it wasn’t a surprise they didn’t last.

I don’t know what happened with the cheating incident, but you have to question, could that have been a passive aggressive move to dump Rachel because he wasn’t invested in her? It certainly can’t be ruled out.

Amber Heard on the Stand

When I watch Amber Heard in these segments, I see true and authentic raw emotions.

Emotions that you do not and cannot fake when telling a lie.

To cognitively balance telling a lie and managing to make these expressions accurately and in perfect timing to her verbal message–that’s impossible to do. This only happens when we truly experience a situation.

Heard expresses disgust repeatedly in a very short period of time which is supportive of the truth and the situation she has described.

The Depp-Heard Trial Thoughts April 27, 2022

Yesterday Depp’s attorney put Dr. Shannon Curry, a forensic psychologist, on the stand.  She testified that Heard has Borderline and Histrionic Personality Disorder.  This may make Amber prone to feeling intense emotions that are hard for her to control and may make her appear dramatic as a result. It’s an important diagnosis to consider. I am curious how her defense team will address this, and if there is an psychological evaluation of Depp that has been completed. Please know I am not watching the trial. I only am able to watch clips as I have time, so my opinions will be directly related to the clips I am watching.

In this video clip below, Heard describes an incident with Depp and her sister at the top of a flight of stairs in a deposition. It was sent to me by a viewer who questions if Heard’s emotional response and story here are authentic.  Her emotions are authentic here. You can see her supporting emotions of anger. We see her lips get thin and curl in. We see a microexpression of disgust.  We see stress in her forehead, albeit there may be some Botox there.

Heard was truly worried about her sister. And she admits she would have done anything to protect her sister. This is honest and open. She is not acting controlling as we saw Depp do on the stand in yesterday’s analysis. She was truly angry and concerned about her sister’s safety.  If Heard has Borderline Personality disorder, while she felt her sister’s life was on the line authentically, to a normal person viewing this incident in person, that mindset may be seen as a dramatic response. So there is truth here, but the perspectives of what happened may be inaccurate. Does that make sense? This may be hard for people to parse out and understand.

Last, I want to bring up this clip of Depp I found where he is asked if stuck Heard.  He does not leak any direct clues here that reveal the truth. He doesn’t give me anything that supports it’s the truth either. I will say I don’t feel comfortable with his response, but that is just a gut feeling. Not every statement leaks clues to deception.  So at this point I will remain neutral on this aspect until I get more information (testimony, evidence, etc).

When I analyzed yesterday’s clip, what I see is a man who has violent emotional outbursts that he is unable to control. I see a man who is unable to admit to his behavior, and a man who is willing to re-write the story to his benefit. These are traits of abusive men. Does that make him one? No.  Is it more likely than average? Yes. His behavior is telling that he is not able to control himself. That’s a huge red beacon, folks. We see the same with Heard, too, in clips.

So the pendulum here is swinging toward him lashing out due to his lack of control, but I do not have a complete picture to say what the truth is at this point with regards to the legal case. And that is a different matter, and I want to be clear on that. My analysis yesterday was for the video I analyzed. It does not speak on the entirety of the case. People are not black and white.  Someone may be honest in one clip and lie in another. Not all statements leak clues.

I suspect from what I have seen, we have two emotionally volatile and highly dysfunctional people who are unable to maintain self-control. Both act very inappropriate towards each other.  This case may be both wanting to be “right” and both are equally in the wrong. I will continue to watch the case and share what i see on a video-by-video basis as I have the time.

What do you think?

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Johnny Depp’s Testimony

The big story in the news is the Johnny Depp and Amber Heard’s defamation trial going on right now. Are you watching it?  People are wondering if Johnny Depp is being honest. Amber Heard hasn’t testified yet.

When I watch Depp testify, I see a man whose demeanor is very calculated. He is methodical in choosing his words and acting in a very controlled manner.  This flags me.  Why does he have the need to be so controlled?

When I listen to the recorded audio segments played in court of Depp and Heard arguing, I hear a very different demeanor from Depp. Of course he is mad (in the clip above), but this “calculated and methodically” personality is no where to be seen. It means we aren’t seeing an authentic Depp in one of these places.  You can pick which one you think is authentic.

When people are honest, they don’t need to control anything. So for me, this raises big red flags.

In the video clip above, I see many elements that give me pause and concern.  It’s clear Depp doesn’t have memories of multiple incidents because he was under the influence of drugs or alcohol.

It’s notable to me that he can’t remember the TV breaking. He thinks there was a “cup” or a “plate” stuck into it? Those are pretty distinct items to not be able to differentiate in memory.  He can’t remember which it was?

Ouch.

Would he then remember hitting or harming someone?

When it comes to the discussion of the penis drawn on a painting, I do believe Depp doesn’t remember drawing a penis on a painting. I’ll give him that! He gives supportive evidence he doesn’t remember.

When the attorney questions him about the penis painting, and says, “Given the state you were in, it’s entirely possible that you did that even if you don’t remember it to this day, correct?”

I love how Depp ignores the question (very common for him), and then tries to act like he does remember what was important to him.

Depp says, “Drawing a penis on a painting wasn’t the first thing on my mind.”

You have to laugh: That’s an ego statement like, dude, I don’t dream of penises. But it is also, to me, a form of control. It’s appears to be a need by him to change facts to suit him, which always raises eyebrows for me.

He continues, “I had messages…to, uh…write.”

Messages?  Really? Is that what you would call this?  Isn’t this manipulation? Gaslighting? Isn’t he painting himself in a light that doesn’t fit with reality?  Do you know anyone who could call defacing a lamp or property leaving “messages”?  It’s ridiculous.

For me, it is playing with words in an attempt to manage and control the situation–to change the narrative.

When you are honest, do you need to do this?

No.

People who do this? They typically can’t be honest with themselves let alone others. They are also often very toxic.

The attorney goes on saying that Depp wrote grievances he had with Heard, and Depp says, “Reminders”.

Listen, if you want to be taken seriously and honestly, admit what you’ve done. Don’t twist and turn the picture here to try to hide from it. Everyone can see it here.  Depp defaced stuff here so own it. Don’t tell us you wrote “reminders”.  That’s babble and nonsense.

When further questioned about the lampshade, Depp ridiculously says of defacing of the lamp, “Yes, I thought it was good advice.”

It’s good advice to deface lamps and put messages on them?

Please help me. Depp is telling you who he is here.

In point 6, in the video clip above, where Heard rattles off all the abuse she claims to have endured, I would have expected Depp to cut her off, disagree, or argue if it was nonsense. I find that noteworthy that he didn’t. I wish this clip didn’t cut off here, though! Is there more of this clip that is noteworthy? He could have just walked away–you can’t rule that out. I can’t tell by the short clip. I’m curious now! If he engages with her after this and just ignores it, it’s noteworthy.

Later in the clip above, Depp talks about looking through a doorway to see Heard’s foot injury (I’m not sure the whole context of this segment). He then says the door hit him smack dab head on in the forehead (because she kicked it in).  I’m trying to figure how that could happen. If you are bending down in a doorway, looking at a toe, and the door is cracked a jar about a foot as he says, how does the door hit you in the center of the forehead as he demonstrated?  I could see it being kicked and slamming into the side of your head (crushing). But how does a slightly ajar door hit you and bounce off the forehead as he says? Unless he was looking at the door and not her foot? Strange.

He even smiles as he says it.  Why would he smile here? It’s odd.  Then he says he, “was completely taken a back by such a…a…a…a., corrosive…..horr..ific move.”

That’s dramatic, don’t you think?  Or did he have serious injuries from this that I don’t know about?  He doesn’t seem to show or talk about any emotional pain from the experience. It sounds like it was a serious bruise to his ego however.

Throughout his testimony, we see this arrogant smugness, smirking and smiling on Depp’s face.  Arrogance is a belief  that one is superior. Superior people put themselves first always!  Nearly 100% of the time. It always alerts me to pay close attention that this is a very self-centered person.

We then see a video of Depp saying “You want to see crazy” as he pours a bottle of wine. When asked about the incident, the attorney says, “You were violent in that clip, correct?”  Depp replies, “Um…clearly I was having a bad…time.”

Really?  No, that was a rage fit. A violent emotional outburst where he lost control. He can’t admit it.

What can he admit then?

Depp is then asked if he was drunk in that video clip and he can’t admit it, either.  He says, “There is a possibility of that.”

You cannot pin down this man to answer directly on anything! And yet he wants to point the finger at someone else and hold them accountable?

In his testimony, Depp admits that he gave a pill to Marilyn Manson, “so that he would stop talking.”

YIKES.

This is an arrogance in a person that feels superior to others and will do whatever he wants to make himself feel better regardless of how it affects them.

While it is not appropriate to rage and yell and scream at a man as Heard did, I can certainly understand she was dealing with a brick wall who twists and turns and changes the narrative. That will make any person crazy.

Do you see a pattern here? A pattern of not answering questions directly?  A pattern of not taking ownership of his bad behaviors?? Of twisting things to change the narrative? Of not remembering events?

Is this a person you would find trustworthy?

I certainly don’t.  I would not feel safe in the presence of Depp behind closed doors ever.

I will share my thoughts on Amber as well once she testifies.

Will Smith and Chris Rock at the Oscars

I didn’t catch the Oscar’s last night. It’s not really my cup of tea, to be honest, but several people have requested my thoughts about last night’s incident with Will Smith and Chris Rock.

When I first watched the incident in the video above, the slap or punch or hit sounded so loud, yet I didn’t see Chris Rock respond in kind to such a hard hit.  It made me wonder for a second:  Is this real? Or a staged event?  Did you question it, too?

But afterwards, seeing Smith say, “Keep my wife’s name out of our f–ing mouth,” and the concurrent response of angry words he said, and the tension in his face clearly supports this is not staged, but real.

Will Smith even walks away after the slap with a smug smirk on his face. He is proud about what he did, which makes me nauseated, to be honest.

I find Smith’s actions to be completely unacceptable on any level. He was like a 2-year old child having a temper tantrum at a formal event!  He resorted to physical aggression to (a) communicate and (b) intimidate, (c) humiliate and (d) bully Chris Rock.

This is not a correction–drawing a respectable boundary, if he felt violated as an adult. This is abusive. If Smith had an issue, he could have maturely addressed his grievance afterwards whether in private or in public. There are mature ways of doing things.

Where is society going?  It seems we are going backwards!

When I see people who act like Smith and see they can and will do this in public without regret, I shutter to think what they are like behind closed doors where they feel freer to be cruel. When you can’t control a temper in public, there are often many other things you can’t control either, and its scary.  This gives me great pause in trusting someone after witnessing this!

Smith also did not give a sincere apology, but instead he continued his “victim stance”–even blaming Rock for being the abuser.  Smith said, “I know, to do what we do, you gotta be able to take abuse,” Smith also said in his speech. “You gotta be able to have people talk crazy about you. In this business, you gotta be able to have people disrespecting you and you gotta smile and pretend like that’s OK.”

He also said, “At your highest moment, be careful, that’s when the devil comes for you”

He is a “victim”, which is another sad situation. Neither he nor Jada have to be a victim if someone insults them. That’s toxic behavior.

As for Chris Rock, if his comment was meant to attack Jada’s alopecia, it was not an appropriate joke, but I have to give it to Chris Rock. He didn’t resort to more escalation after being physically attacked! That took maturity to do that. And I thought it was common to roast people at the Oscars. Am I wrong?  I am not an expert on Oscar history, my apologies, if I am wrong.

Frankly, as a society, we should not accept people acting like Smith did. It’s totally unacceptable on every level. There is no excuse for it. Period.

Lastly, there are multiple reports of Nicole Kidman reacting during all of this. Some say it was due to the slap, and other say the moment was captured before. But either way, they captured a great expression on her face. Do you know what it is?