Q&A

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Here is your forum. Do you have a question? Feel free to ask it!

One reader today asked me if I could discern if someone was lying by watching a video of them, even though I couldn’t understand the language spoken. The reader believed that because the person was calm, and relaxed, that this indicated they were not lying.

The answer to their question was no, you cannot use body language alone (any body language) to conclusively identify if someone is honest or deceptive. It simply cannot be done, and is dangerous to do.

It’s not all about expressions. Language does matter. Emotions matter. Words matter. Facts matter. Behavior matters. The show “Lie to Me” isn’t explaining the nuances of this ability very well.

It’s also important that people realize there is not one universal clue that can be applied “across the board” to spot deception. Not one. What one person does when he is lying, another will do when he is honest. There is always an exception to every clue. Always. That’s what makes deception detection so hard for the average person, because this is not about clues. It is about understanding human behavior, to the core.

Deception detection is more about the sum of inconsistencies, and the sum in total indicates deception. This is so important, and clearly not being communicated on “Lie to Me”. Microexpressions, and the other clues shown on the show, are used in the process of discerning a lie, but they are not conclusive of anything in and of themselves, outside of indicating a person’s emotional state of mind (which will just provide you with a clue).

Ted Haggard Speaks Out on Oprah

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Today on Oprah, Ted Haggard is speaking out. If you go to Oprah.com, and look at the preview of the show, it should be interesting. She is asking some great questions!

The AP also released this video yesterday of a young man who formerly attended Haggard’s New Life Church.

Tune back later this week for my thoughts. In the meantime, you can read about my previous thoughts about Haggard. Did you know the first time I saw him, I just didn’t trust him? It was his fake smile that never ended that clued me in that this guy had big secrets! That’s always a big tip-off to anyone. When someone keeps a fake smile plastered on their face through everything they say, it’s a good indication what you are being told is being sugar-coated, in a big, big way!

Roy Kronk: My Opinion

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Roy Kronk is the big mystery man this week. Is he being honest with us or not? Click on the image below to see the video.

Here are three of the four 911 calls Kronk made as well. You can follow the links to listen to them as well.

August 11
August 12
August 13

READ MOREWhen I listen to the 911 calls, I don’t hear anything that tips me off or concerns me. I don’t hear a man who is nervous or who sounds like he is acting, or making up a story. And when I watch Kronk on GMA, I also get the sense he is sincere.

I’m a little bit perplexed by Kronk’s persistence with the police if he didn’t get close to the bag prior to December 11th. If he didn’t know anything conclusive (i.e., investigate it more than he is saying), why didn’t he just brush it off and forget about it? This raises my eyebrows and leaves me wanting to ask more questions, but nothing more.

I keep wondering if Kronk smelled the smell of death that day in August as he and his co-worker stood by the side of the road catching some shade, and that strong smell is what led Kronk to investigate the area further, and led him to spot the bag. What he did from there, I don’t know.

Who thinks of the smell of death, and concealing that smell in a decaying swamp?

Have you ever thought about that?

It’s rather unusual. Then again, it may not mean anything. He may have just added up the pieces, and knew that the bag and the “white” material underneath was not good one way or another.

I will stand on this: I do not think Kronk knew the Anthonys or had any contact with them. I also believe Kronk when he says he had nothing to do with Caylee’s disappearance. I believe Kronk when he says that.

Suze Orman Book Offer

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Through Oprah.com, Suze Orman is offering her latest book, 2009 Action Plan, a $9.99 value, free to the public for one week (offer expires January 15th at midnight).

Considering the tough economic times, I thought I would share this news with you even though it is off topic. Suze Orman is sincere when she says she wants to help people. She gives sound advice!

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Thanks Oprah and Suze for working to help make people’s lives better! If you haven’t been watching Oprah lately, she is spending much of her time in 2009 helping people live their best life. Go Oprah!

Sarah Palin and Trig

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Many of you have asked me over the past several months if Sarah Palin is lying about Trig being her son. People have run rampant on the Internet with speculation that Trig is actually Sarah Palin’s daughter’s baby.

I have refrained from comment simply because the only truth I can rely on is what I see people say for themselves, and last night, I finally got the opportunity to see Sarah Palin talk about Trig being her son. The Greta show aired the segment.

When I watch this video, and Palin tells us she is frustrated, it is very evident in her expressions that she is just that. You can sense a tension in her that corroborates what she is saying. Her eyes squint up in anger,and at the same time I see a sadness that she is not believed. Her facial expressions match her message, and her emotions are completely consistent with what she is saying.

Sure, if she was lying, she might be frustrated too, but I would expect to see other indications that she is being dishonest and I don’t.

Also, if Sarah Palin’s daughter was pregnant, don’t you think that her friends and the community where she lived would have seen it and come forward? Surely, as the governor’s daughter, people would have noticed. I think that because no one has come forward about this, it also supports what the truth is here. It would be awfully hard to shut up an entire community, or to keep Palin’s daughter isolated for that many months, don’t you think?

So, let’s put that rumor to rest as well as the topic of Sarah Palin! This is just too tabloidesque for my personal tastes [squirming]!